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Release the Tension….

You know, when you have two people building a house, I’m sure it would take longer to build the house. Imagine if 20 people were building that same house, how long do you think it will take? As Africana people all over the world, without realizing, we have internalized the “every man for himself” mentality. Coupled with that, we have internalized that we need to fight for or compete with each other for resources because that is what we were taught by capitalism. Meanwhile, the people that created capitalism and taught us to fight for resources, unified to gain their resources, and now they pretend to fight with one another when they really have each other‘s back – ex. Democrat vs. republican, all represent the same system.

Now, I don’t care if you’re rich or poor, wealthy or modest, old money or new money; this is something that we face around the whole entire global African community. What we need to realize is, the quicker we each stand up for our truth we will naturally begin to join together with others who are willing to build this house. When we depend on and look to 1 or 2 leaders to do all the work, the tension rises, that is why each Black leader we have is criticized and scrutinized on every level. It’s similar to how people look at God, we were taught that all we have to do is believe in God, and somehow that would make everything better. But I ask people, where is the faith piece? You can believe in anything that you wanna believe in, but if you don’t act, then nothing will get done – “faith without works is dead”. That is why we pray, ask for direction, then move with that direction. In the Global Black Diaspora, we have treated our leaders the same way. That is why even though a lot of people call me a leader, I always encourage people to think for themselves, because I never want to be the person who everyone is looking to, to the point where they forget who they are. I believe true leadership is allowing the people who follow you to create their own paths. This is a journey for all of us, whatever I do will benefit all Black people. That is why I created my courses. As a teacher first, my goal was to always make sure my students understood for themselves, and then I made sure that they were able to teach each other what I taught them. If I had just finished teaching a concept, and maybe 1 or 2 children still had questions, I would ask the students who know and gained a grasp of the concept to please help their fellow student. I would like to add that the majority of the time it was the “misbehaved” students who grasped the concepts, and the ones that I asked to help the other students. It made them feel important that I asked them to help their fellow classmate. Anyway back to what I was saying. We need to help each other release the tension, there is this inherent fear constantly running in our mind about “what if?”, but I guarantee you that once you begin to live out your true calling, the work will get done.

Again, as I sat there and called each of the Congress and Senate members in 2020, each and every time I thought I would be rejected, because again, they kept reminding me that they usually don’t talk to non-constituents. I went on to send a 2nd round of letters to Senate and Congress, and I didn’t ask people to help me because I said, “let me just get it done”, and the 1st time I asked people, they said it was “too much” to call their Congress member – I called 500+, 1 is too much? The next time though, I will be asking people to come forth and help me. This is not about begging the government to do anything for us as a people, it is creating a sound of unity with each other, and noncompliance with the government, while making everyone aware that we are fighting for our own change. Anyway, back to what I was saying again. We are the generation that is not going to be comfortable until we get it right. Even those who think they live comfortably, when the weight of the world is on the shoulders of people who look like you, I truly don’t believe you can really be satisfied. I know all of what I accomplished in my life, but each and every time I keep thinking I want the majority of people who look like me to be freely able to accomplish the same things. I say majority because even if you have 100 people who can benefit from something, there may be 1 or 2 that’s still choose otherwise. I think there is a running myth that the majority of Black people don’t want something different than what we have right now, but when I was a case manager I had hundreds of clients (99% Black), and I will say that only a sliver of them truly didn’t want to make change in their lives, but then again they had more deeper rooted issues than I could get to in the position I was in. Now I do understand also that my upbringing required excellence out of me, but that is why I wish to gift that excellence to those who may not have had access to the encouragement I received. I just feel honored to be able to share that with people, I have never been the type to keep it to myself, the encouragement that I received is the encouragement that I give to others and that is why I believe it was given to me, so that I can share it genuinely with the people that I am looking to help achieve greatness. Needless to say, I’m doing my part, and I truly just wish to help others get to their part, so let us all release the tension of each other and do our parts, to get to global Black freedom as we all desire. Amen.

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There is Space for Everyone’s Blackness

There is space for everyone’s Blackness. Remember, before we were brutally stolen from our land, there were many tribes, there wasn’t a singular way of life. Although we multiplied our culture to ensure our survival in any area we were in, it was a testament to our magicalness, to be celebrated. We must uplift the various parts of us, even if 1 way seems dominant, it does not erase the other, just as magical parts. We each need each other, there is nothing to be threatened by, only something to be strengthened by.

Our Blackness should intertwine, us coming together should represent our origins. Us dividing only represents our enslavement, division was given to us by design. Whether boujie, ratchet, upper class or lower, at a point we must intertwine to get back to balance. If your sister is suffering, help her, with uplifting words and not terror. Yes, she can be loud and ratchet, and it’s ok, her character is more than enough if she has the ability to treat you right.

Well, what’s your Blackness? And how can it match with another’s Blackness? Celebrate!

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My Why: My Heart is For My People

Wherever my people are, I’m concerned with what’s going on with them. I want to know what we think and feel, I want to know what we like. I know that all of us are not the same, but That is the beauty of who we are.

Since I was a kid, I always paid attention to what was going on with Black people, you all know that, I’ve told you that. However, I believe that I was put on this earth for my people. I do not believe that everyone has to have the same cause, but I’m well aware that it’s all I think about, and any idea I come up with always has my people in mind.

I am here to liberate the minds of my people through education and entertainment to help them be more confident in whatever it is they do. I believe in the small steps, the small steps lead to great results. I believe in being the change I want to see.

I always say my mind is wired in Blackness, meaning, I have no other thought process. Like when a person walks in a house and thinks of ways it can be decorated, I don’t do that when I walk into a house at all, but that person is a decorator. When I see Black people and think of ways to make them better and uplift them, I’m a decorator, decorating the lives of Black people everyday. When I say make better, I mean their soul, how can I be a light?

In my eyes we do no wrong, even though we do, but it’s a child I’ll protect, I’m not anybody’s mama yet, but I’m the mama of Black unity and I mean it, nothing else makes me happier.

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Renaming Our Names

I remember I tweeted this on July 4th, white Americans Independence Day, because you know, on that day, Africans were still enslaved. I said “Native Americans should be called Americans & white people should be called illegal immigrants 🤔 Non-Happy illegal immigrant Codependence Day 🙄”

Why did I say this? Because, when history is told from the Eurocentric standpoint, they’ll always look like the founders and the hero’s, and the other parties will look like they have not contributed to anything. Why should the people who were here have to change their names while everyone else gets to call themselves American? Oh, because it feeds the narrative that america was founded. Founded by whom? It was here already. Therefore, when you enter someone’s home, you share an experience, they teach you about them and the ways of their home, not the other way around. They teach you their names, you don’t get to name them. You’re never superior in someone else’s home, if anything, they name you! The European experience is codependent, it is not independent outside of the cultures, customs, and resources that should have been shared and exchanged for goods, but instead stolen. The same thing with the enslavement of Africans, we were enslaved and violated, we were not slaves. We have been renamed at least 7 times since being forced into America, and each name is not our original name. Even when the Europeans came to Africa, they forced Africans to change their names to go to particular schools, that’s why in my dad’s era they had English names. Thank Ala I was given all Igbo names in this here america.

We need to start taking ownership of our names and words. We need to start taking ownership of our practices. Listen, again, Europeans claim to find things and name them, but renaming what’s not yours is actually not to be celebrated. We’ve just come to claim these titles and not question it. Why go to Africa, European, and start calling something an African mango? It needs no prerequisite in Africa, it’s a mango. Even in Africa, being forced because of colonialism to have 2 weddings, and calling the original, “traditional wedding”, a wedding is a wedding; the white dress wedding is a tradition, of the British, so should we call the white wedding a traditional British wedding? I’m going to start doing that. I’m not, for sure, going to keep changing the name of everything that’s mine every time the Europeans bring their version, or not even their version 99% of the time – it’s just their name based on their interpretation.

Speaking of interpretations, my favorite European misinterpretation is the Egyptian book of the dead. It actually, in Egyptian culture, translates to the Egyptian Book of Life. The Europeans did not understand the ways and practices seen in the book, therefore misinterpreting. That is why gatekeeping is so important, we have been thinking for hundreds of years that the people who enslaved us were genuinely interested in our cultures, however they have always, without fail, misinterpreted our cultures to the world. The biggest one being the renaming of Africa, you think all those countries and languages existed? They did not, they were divided according to the territory of the colonizer. To be a Nigerian means nothing, I am Igbo and will no longer claim European borders on Africa. Through our renaming all over the world, especially where we’ve been enslaved, our culture has been robbed from us and trying to the world to not represent the fullness of our traditions and who we are. Twerking anyone? I won’t even get into twerking, but I tell you this, whatever Miley Cyrus was doing wasn’t twerking, and whatever the origin of twerking is, is not sexual, but you wouldn’t know that because you let Miley teach you; I leave you with Miley’s teachings.

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