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Release the Tension #TeachMeTuesdays

You know, when you have two people building a house, I’m sure it would take longer to build the house. Imagine if 20 people were building that same house, how long do you think it will take? As Africana people all over the world, without realizing, we have internalized the “every man for himself” mentality. Coupled with that, we have internalized that we need to fight for or compete with each other for resources because that is what we were taught by capitalism. Meanwhile, the people that created capitalism and taught us to fight for resources, unified to gain their resources, and now they pretend to fight with one another when they really have each other‘s back, which is the basis of white inferiority (what some call white supremacy).

Now I don’t care if you’re rich or poor, wealthy or modest, old money or new money; this is something that we face around the whole entire global African community. What we need to realize is, the quicker we each stand up for our truth we will naturally begin to join together with others who are willing to build this house. When we depend on and look to 1 or 2 leaders to do all the work, the tension rises, that is why each Black leader we have is criticized and scrutinized on every level. It’s similar to how people look at God, we were taught that all we have to do is believe in God, and somehow that would make everything better. But I ask people, where is the faith piece? You can believe in anything that you wanna believe in, but if you don’t act, then nothing will get done – “faith without works is dead”. That is why we pray, ask for direction, then move with that direction. In the Global Black Diaspora, we have treated our leaders the same way. That is why even though a lot of people call me a leader, I always encourage people to think for themselves, because I never want to be the person who everyone is looking to, to the point where they forget who they are. I believe true leadership is allowing the people who follow you to create their own paths. This is a journey for all of us, whatever I do will benefit all Black people. That is why I created my courses. As a teacher first, my goal was to always make sure my students understood for themselves, and then I made sure that they were able to teach each other what I taught them. So if I had just gotten done teaching a concept, and maybe 1 or 2 children still had questions, I would ask the students who know and gained a grasp of the concept to please help their fellow student. I would like to add that the majority of the time it was the “misbehaved” students who grasped the concepts, and the ones that I asked to help the other students. It made them feel important that I asked them to help their fellow classmate. Anyway back to what I was saying. We need to help each other release the tension, there is this inherent fear constantly running in our mind about “what if?”, but I guarantee you that once you begin to live out your true calling, the work will get done.

Again, as I sat there and called each of the Congress and Senate members, each and every time I thought I would be rejected, because again, they kept reminding me that they usually don’t talk to non-constituents. I didn’t tell you guys, but I just finished round 2 of my letter sending to Senate and Congress, this time around I still didn’t ask people to help me because I said, “let me just get it done”. The next time though, I will be asking people to come forth and help me. This is not about begging the government to do anything for us as a people, it is creating a sound of unity with each other, and noncompliance with the government, while making everyone aware that we are fighting for our own change. Anyway, back to what I was saying again. We are the generation that is not going to be comfortable until we get it right. Even those who think they live comfortably, when the weight of the world is on the shoulders of people who look like you, I truly don’t believe you can really be satisfied. I know all of what I accomplished in my life, but each and every time I keep thinking I want the majority of people who look like me to be freely able to accomplish the same things. I say majority because even if you have 100 people who can benefit from something, there may be 1 or 2 that’s still choose otherwise. I think there is a running myth that the majority of Black people don’t want something different than what we have right now, but when I was a case manager I had hundreds of clients (99% Black) over the years and I will say that only a sliver of them truly didn’t want to make change in their lives, but then again they had more deeper rooted issues than I could get to in the position I was in. Now I do understand also that my upbringing required excellence out of me, but that is why I wish to gift that excellence to those who may not have had access to the encouragement I received. I just feel honored to be able to share that with people, I have never been the type to keep it to myself, the encouragement that I received is the encouragement that I give to others and that is why I believe it was given to me, so that I can share it genuinely with the people that I am looking to help achieve greatness. Needless to say, I’m doing my part, and I truly just wish to help others get to their part, so let us all release the tension of each other and do our parts, to get to global Black freedom as we all desire. Amen.

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Your Way Rules the Way… #SoulfulSundays

Listen, the people who have made change, who we learn about, and even the ones we care not to learn about, have all made themselves relevant by breaking the rules. Nobody has been revolutionary by caring what everyone thinks of them. Especially in a society where the rules are biased, and oppress multiple groups of people, at some point you have to do things different to get things done.

You never know what an act you have done is preparing you for. To get to the point of revolutionary change, you will be tested in the small things. Everyone has this obsession of everything they do having to be the next big thing right now in the world, having to be seen, to be heard by everybody to be valid. When I sit here before you, I am a woman who has done so many unseen things, things that I’d rather say in person in context, because people think it’s crazy of me that I went out of my way to protect another Black person in that way. But that’s why I live by prayer, so I’m strategic, and I know I’m protected everytime I do something God tells me to do that’s beneficial for my people, even if people think I’m crazy for it. If we’re really going to be about something, we have to do something different. All of this sharpens us to be able to take on the big battles as they come. What big can we do if we haven’t even done the little?

Everything has its time; one story I will tell you is when I sat there in May 2020 and prayed to God to give me an idea of how to contribute to the Global liberation of Black people during this time – according to who I’ve been called to be – 5 minutes later, I was creating a spreadsheet of all the Senators and Congress members in the country and writing them a 4 page letter (I never thought of that before that prayer). I questioned how I would reach all of them, when I am only a constituent in my area. I called people I know to help me, and after badgering me about ways to help, they all declined. Well, after my 1st successful meeting I decided that I would call all 532 seated members myself, and I did. The reason I knew it was God is because the majority of members I got in contact with and eventually met with via zoom or phone said that they wouldn’t normally talk to non-constituents, but they were so impressed with my efforts that they chose to talk to me. Did I change the world in that moment? Maybe some will say no, but YES, because everything has its time. I am a woman of purpose who always goes against the grain and each grain is rewarded in its time, the reward this time is for Black people. I was able to create a sound of Blackness that infiltrated many offices, standing up for blackness, uncompromised, when a couple of members tried to throw me off track. I knew what I was doing.

So what am I saying here, I want us as Africana people all over the world to begin to live that way, I want us to be bold in each of our surroundings and care less about what outsiders may think, but more around who we were created to be. That is more meaningful in this world. I am speaking to my Melanated warriors, if that’s who you were called to be, then live it. Your next stage may not be a big platform, it may be a small thing needed to sharpen your dedication to your people, and you need to seek God for ways to be valuable to your people.

I will always acknowledge God in my journey because that is where my bold faith comes from to stand up for Africana people for things seen and unseen. I know the name my ancestors have for God, and that’s the name I use. Since this is a platform of people who read from several different countries across the world on all continents, I’ll use the name God. But understand that everything God tells you to do may not always make sense, and it may not always be by the rules, but it will be beneficial and rewarded in it’s time.

People may think that if it’s God, then it’s not really them, but understand part of your design and creation had a solution inside of you, that’s why it’s you, and your rules – because even your very personality was given to you to carry it out. You know who you are, or do you? You know when your spirit is telling you to do something, and when something feels right, or that idea you keep thinking about that doesn’t make sense, but it feels right. Do it! As long as it’s not harmful, anything God leads you to do will be beneficial. Remember, as African people we are not the violent ones, and our “violence” has purpose – right of passage, art of war; never senseless killings. Let’s not use a colonization strategy against us. Right now our focus needs to be doing radical things to build up our people for the strength needed ahead, and that may require breaking the rules. All the best my Melanated Gems, and make sure to register for the Decolonize Your Mind™ entry level course coming up on March 31st!

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When they know they Know

Sometimes you will be confused, melanated gems, why you put yourself out there, and it seems like, people don’t feel the same way about what you do as you do. You put your all into your craft, and the people who you think would love what you do are actually the ones who fall off. It’s not that they don’t know you’re good, they just don’t want it to be you. Remember the pie I talked about in my last blog post? The white supremacy pie that makes everyone who’s not a part of that system fight for one piece? Well, it fuels insecurity and competition.

We already know the statistics, Black women start 763 businesses a day. On a whole, we have to work harder to sustain because we just don’t get the support needed to sustain. I am so happy when I see Black owned businesses because I know what it took to get there. I’m here to tell you that, if the idea was given to you, it’s because you were supposed to fulfill it. What other people say is only their input/opinion, but it is not part of your design. Even the system who rejects you, is not part of your design. Don’t you know, melanated gem, that opposition has to come when you are on the path to greatness, and it may be sad or confusing when it’s your own people, but just remember, we have a lot to do in terms of self love amongst the Black population. Our global self love was robbed from us, you achieving your gift will allow others to achieve the same.

Even though we live in a system that is built for our oppression, we should never, ever, doubt our gifts. People actually know you are good, in fact, you’ve heard it your whole life from unlikely people, you know it’s in your heart every second of the day; and although encouragement is nice, it’s not necessary when you know what you have inside of you. I’ve come to understand that on the road to greatness, opposition comes to force out the greatness in you. I also understand that in my own path, elders always encourage me and recognize the greatness in me, they always encourage me to keep going! Your encouragers are there, just keep them and ignore the rest. Any important, valid feedback will always help build up, it will never tear down.

When they know, they know; but what’s more important is that you know. You know the greatness inside of you, you know what makes you light up, so keep that, and if anyone in your life doesn’t aid in that path, unfortunately, they can go! Your work may benefit them in the long run.

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Colonization under a different name… #DearBlackPeople

I usually don’t get into this, unless relating it to a point I want to make to Black people – my melanated gems – however, I think it’s important to understand the root of many of the injustices we see today. White supremacy is a pie, a really old pie, but a pie nonetheless; they’ve taken that old pie and cut out 1 piece to throw out to everyone else to fight over. The 5% of people are fighting over the one piece of pie while white supremacy is enjoying 95% of the pie, and there are crumbs falling from their pie. Then they say, besides the piece we’ve given the rest of you, if one of you would like these crumbs, you can come join us. Therefore, the one or few non-white people take the crumbs, and they feel like they’ve made it, even though they really don’t benefit from the 95% of the pie generationally, so when they try to advance and make progress with the 95%, the 95% reminds them, “you should be happy with your crumbs!” I actually heard a story just like that from a Black woman before, when she asked for a raise after 7 years from her job as the only Black woman working with all white men; and I saw it happen with my dad, when his business was excelling, how his white peers began to become viscous enemies.

What does this have to do with colonization? Well, it’s all the same, the same reason colonization happened, is the same reason for gentrification, marginalization, globalization, and hateration that comes to any Black person who tries to fully succeed and liberate themselves within this colonial construct. The purpose was for white supremacy to keep the pie and eliminate anyone who tried to access more of the pie than they were allotted. That is why Black people rightfully don’t trust Black politicians, because a lot of times they are in and representing the system that they can’t betray. This redemption work is the work of the “regular” people, we don’t have any ties to a system that we owe allegiance to. That is why when I was meeting with Congress and Senate members this past summer, I was happy that I was not attached to any organization, because I could speak freely about my purpose and my faith as it relates to redemption work for Black people. I didn’t have to filter myself, and that’s what we need, we need people without a filter, someone who’s not invested in the advancement of all people, but Black people. Colonization only is upheld out of fear, on both sides; fear from white supremacists that they will lose something that was never theirs, and fear from Black people that we could literally lose our lives trying to fight for it. I remember watching the news a few years ago and hearing 4 or 5 white men admit that they are scared to lose power. Well, again, we have to take back the pie, and unite to demand it. When one person comes up against a system such as colonization, it is hard, but when hundreds of thousands do, it is beneficial.

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