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#SoulfulSundays – Stay the Course

Hello All! Welcome to a new week! Many of my social media followers know that I did a 7 day water and honey fast from February 28th to March 6th. I actually didn’t plan it until I noticed my body needed a reset and I needed to do something quick. I hadn’t done a 7 day fast since 11 years ago, even though I fast intermittently, often, so I didn’t know how I was going to do. I said “let me take it day by day, and if I ever can’t take it, I’ll stop”. I started documenting day 2 with my followers, and I thought since I put it out there, it would be great encouragement to continue. By day 3, I had lost 6.5 lbs., and I put it out there, so I decided I would continue to document it. Understand the power of the spoken word! Once you put a goal out there, and people begin to believe in you and encourage you, sometimes it can help you stay the course. Although I am more motivated by action than encouragement. I must say that for me, I need encouragement to fast. Living in my purpose, I encourage myself, and people join me in action to complete tasks if need be. Anyway it was great motivation to have my followers encourage me along the way and if I hadn’t put it out there that I was completing this fast, I don’t think I would have stayed the course to be honest.

Well, stay the course my friends, and be sure to rejoice along the way. Each day I completed I said that I would continue on to the next day. I did not wait until the 7 days was over to celebrate. The same way we have to stay the course as a people. As we begin to unite and literally liberate minds one by one, and then the Global Black Diaspora, we have to celebrate every win. If we liberate one mind, let’s celebrate, don’t look at the 2000 that haven’t been liberated, celebrate the 1, and then continue. Take this work day by day, put your goals out there and then let people stay the course with you. I really believe in the full liberation of the Global Black Diaspora, so I count each and every one touched by my message with joy, and I do not ignore them, they are just as important and the thousands and millions more I will reach through my work. I will take it day by day, and if it ever gets too much, I will re-strategize. Will you strategize with me?

Society makes us feel that only accomplished goals matter, and I disagree. Every day won’t work out as planned, but be grateful that it’s still going. If you only look forward to the accomplished goal, then days that don’t go as planned will feel like failure. If you look at yourself that day and know you did the best you could, that is an accomplishment, and it makes you appreciate it much better when you reach the end goal. Celebrating actually releases some happy hormones and gives you the energy to keep going. Burning out due to over-stressing actually delays the process. If you have to re-strategize to do what you have to do, be grateful for even having the mind to re-strategize. Find the grateful in everything, and deal with issues accordingly. We accomplish much more with gratitude through the process. I am not just talking big talk, I actually live this way, when a class in my webinar may have had only one person show up, I still spoke to them as if there were 2000 people listening, and I was grateful for them. I don’t ever consider myself a failure, I only see myself as a winner, and that is my power.

Amen!

~Ndidi Love~

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Solutions Solutions! Ideas & Conclusions… #ForwardFridays

Hello All! When you’re a solutions person, don’t complain around excessive complainers, because they can only meet you at one level of conversation…

I find that, the reason why so many people can’t relate in conversation with me is because their mind is wired in complaint mode, while mine is wired in solution mode; and as the brethren told me yesterday, “I saw that you turned your words into action”. I believe in my line of work, we as Black people are well versed in the problems because we live them every single day, and we have enough information now that even if we didn’t know everything, we know enough. What I find is that the problems become the eternal conversation, then when solutions, or positive results of past actions are mentioned, people challenge it, refuse to believe it, or they tell you why a solution won’t work. So you mean to tell me that you’re comfortable with the problem? That is why I try my best to not complain unless it’s attached to a solution, I am not always perfect at it though. I know that even as I type these blogs, educate my audience, and write complaints to huge corporations, that I am also actively working towards solutions at the same time; and my efforts in the past have led to solutions. Why should I engage in conversation with a compulsive complainer? I’ll just show them how to get it done, not in a bragging way, but I just do the work, and come back with the results. Does every result change the world? No, but it adds to the collective effort.

Especially on platforms where the world is watching us, they are watching as we shout Black Lives Matter, they are watching as we are the only group that eternally has to fight for reparations – and everything else – we have to actively support those who are trying. I know that many initiatives have let us down and capitalized on the oppression of Black people, and it is hard to trust, but don’t give them that energy, put the energy into what’s working. I know some people watch and wait to see who you are before trusting you, and that backlash when we are continually betrayed comes from hurt. I know that so many people present solutions for their own gain, and really don’t care about Black people even if they are Black. I know that the government has hired black people to betray Black movements. That is why I assured my audience that I am really here for you all, no white person or corporation can hop in my DM’s and sway me away with dollars, nobody can mute my voice when it comes to Black people, and I will not take whatever I gain and run with it. I know people may try, but I will not give in, 401 years of being tricked into selling our people is finished. You all will hold me accountable I know, but all my energy is good for the liberation of Black people, and I ask God everyday to keep me on the right direction.

So my people, let’s rewire our minds to be solutions minded. Even if you think of a problem, think of a solution and put it out there, or at least actively write it down so that it’s out of your head. Next, tell someone; if they think it’s a bad idea, then actively work on it. Use bad advice to understand that their feedback is a reflection of a non-solution based mind. A solution based mind will always try to help build with you or support it in a way, even if they don’t understand it. However, if that is not how your mind operates, then at least be careful of your words towards people who have solutions. And never ever ever listen to a person who says your idea won’t work because “white people won’t let it”. How many times have I heard that? It is advice straight from the devil, because no race can stop what God has in store.

Be well, Melanated Gems.

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Be Authentic: #Forward Fridays

Melanated gem, do you know that you were created for a purpose? Everyone says that, but let’s get a bit deeper. Do you know that the very curl of my hair, width of my nose, volume in my voice, quirk in my personality was created to reach the very people I was supposed to reach. I see so many melanated gems complain about features that were downplayed by the very people who created false beauty standards, but literally, you are beautiful. You literally look at yourself, and tell yourself that you are the best version of yourself because it is uniquely you. Not because it’s in comparison to anyone else, but because it has a very reason why it is that way. I love myself so much that I can’t wait to have a daughter to look and act just like me, she’ll have her own purpose too. I see a lot of internalized oppression that reveals itself in colorism, mistreating darker women because the Black woman’s body is seen as ok to abuse and mistreat, that’s the reality. People associate dark with manly and aggressive, so people are comfortable mocking and tearing down darker women. The same with Black men, seen as strong and tough so it’s ok to treat them all the same, according to society. we are seen as beings without feelings, after 401 years sure we’ve become desensitized, right? Not at all, we are still gifted, crafty, intellectuals who shape the world, and we need no validation. I’m here to tell you to take your power back and literally find the strength to see yourself for all the good you are. You validate yourself. Even if someone comes back around and says the opposite, they are telling you more about themselves than you. Be yourself, why? Because the people you are supposed to reach are depending on you. You are depending on you. Imagine living a whole life and never appreciating who you are because of a mere human. A human who is going to their own home, their own purpose, their own self hate, that has nothing to do with you. Once you embrace the very part of you that is harmless and authentically you, then you will discover that it is all part of the purpose of uniquely being you. The laugh, the walk, the harmless thoughts, are your gift to the world. There are loud leaders, and there are silent leaders, Obama led with calm, Malcolm led with boisterousness, but they reached who they were supposed to reach, and so will you! Check out this video I did a couple of years ago on this very subject, enjoy!

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Dear Warrior: Enjoy Every Moment – #SoulfulSunday’s

Melanated Gem; enjoy yourself. We have so much to fight for in this world, our freedoms are always being taken advantage of, we are constantly being gaslighted and told to forget the racism that has shaped us as a people. The idea of leaving the house and having to deal with racism in every system possible is not one to look forward to. I read an article the other day that the Black life expectancy rate is down since 2018, lower than other races. I’ll be danged if I don’t find a way to have fun while fighting this fight.

White supremacy is an agenda. The point is to make you so depressed and caught up in what you have going on that you don’t enjoy life. There’s no way in the world I’m going to let a group of people who have stolen my people’s land, opportunities, and resources to steal my joy too?! Absolutely not. At a point I just force myself to have fun, turn on the music, and dance! I continue the fight for redemption always.

Everyday there can be information that can cause you to seriously have stress. Like knowing slavery is still legal under the 13th amendment. The one thing about laws is, they have clauses. However, like I said in last weeks Soulful Sunday post, there will always be something to fight in this country, as we each do our part, we relieve ourselves to be able to be free. If we don’t do our individual parts, we make it stressful for the few of us who’s trying.

I still won’t allow anything to take my joy, I need that balance to refuel for the next battle. I’m leaving this country very soon, until then, I will dance!