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How Do You Know You Believe in It? #ForwardFridays

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“If you’re not willing to answer the hard questions about what you believe in; then you don’t believe in it.” ~ Ndidi Love

Everyone, I would hope, believes in something. There are those of us who believe in something strong enough to fight for it, there are those of us who believe in something strong enough to put it on the front lines. With that, people will question you. They want to know if you’re about what you say you’re about. That’s normal. It is easy to get annoyed when people are asking you questions about what you believe in as if to challenge you or even doubt you my Melanated Gems. I had to get used to it. Trust me, I know I have lived what I believe, so a lot of times, I say, “who is this person challenging me about what I believe?” but I had to understand that their challenge allows me to become sharp. Not only will people challenge you, but life will challenge you. Once you put something out there, believe a situation will come to put you to the test. That is part of life, and we should even be challenging ourselves. That is another reason I argue for the validity of higher education as a sharpening tool to become a scholar and expert, being critiqued by professors and your peers; it is not just a piece of paper if done right. I am pretty sure the person who invented the first car did not just put it out there, she/he had to drive it first, test it out, and work out the mistakes. That is what often happens in life: we put ourselves to the test, then the people come and test us, then finally life comes and tests us again. I often say that Washington, DC was the building of my faith, and Texas is the activation of my faith. My, my, my; all the things I believe as it relates to resistance, faith, and overcoming planned injustice towards Black people, has all greatly challenged me here in Texas. I’d say I have always had a strong willed spirit, even my mom told me that, but Texas brought out that strong will a little more loud than usual. I am very loud with my resistance now, and I find that the more I resist, it gets easier. It’s like life is saying, “show me what you’re about, don’t just talk about it.”

Life talks to me, you know, and so do humans. But I have learned that I need to take these challenges with joy, and learn from them. We are not above error, and the challenges allow us to tweak our approach. So long as there is a challenge, there is always a solution. For me, Texas is the challenge of corporations. From the workplace, to my car manufacturer, to my apartment complex, I said “gollee, I have never had to challenge this many corporations in my life!”, but I can say that with these challenges I have been victorious, and have found my strength that I can apply to other areas of the fight for justice. I literally can’t believe I sat there in 2020 and called all 523 seated congress and senate members, and literally typed up a 4 page presentation on my own to present to them. I look back and say wow. What I found is that once you continue to resist and stand up to the challenge, life responds positively. I literally was told by the good majority of senate and congress members that I connected with (70+), that they usually do not, and haven not talked to non-constituents (a constituent is a member of their governing district – ex. district 2 of Louisiana). Although they expressed that they never do that, they were impressed with my will to educate them on solutions for African Americans in such a way, and at least 2 actively stated their intent to utilize a couple of my bullet points to incorporate into their ongoing changes. I didn’t want to meet with them as a representative of an organization, I wanted to present to them as a citizen. I invited others to join me, but they all expressed intimidation. I was pleased to meet another brother online who is doing the same thing, fighting for reparations, on his own, and meeting with senate and congress members. I would tag him, but I don’t know if he wants that publicity as of yet. I said all that to say, sometimes what seems challenging is just a call to act. I have to answer for what I believe in and what I stand for; I have to be the example of what I believe in, because it’s my belief. Again, as I stated yesterday, prayer! I prayed for a solution to contribute to the well being of my people during the time of uprise during quarantine, and that was the answer.

My dears, of all the representatives, 2 challenged me as if I was public enemy of the United States, but I was glad to be challenged, because I stood my ground, respectfully, and I understood that they would want to know why one Black girl would put herself on the line to argue on behalf of America’s Black people. They could have asked in a different tone, but the feedback from others was so great that I said hey, somebody has to eventually disagree, it’s all good.

So, what are you willing to answer for today? What do you believe in? Are you shy when the opportunity comes to show yourself, or are you standing up to the challenge? Big up your chest na!

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#SoulfulSundays – Stay the Course

Hello All! Welcome to a new week! Many of my social media followers know that I did a 7 day water and honey fast from February 28th to March 6th. I actually didn’t plan it until I noticed my body needed a reset and I needed to do something quick. I hadn’t done a 7 day fast since 11 years ago, even though I fast intermittently, often, so I didn’t know how I was going to do. I said “let me take it day by day, and if I ever can’t take it, I’ll stop”. I started documenting day 2 with my followers, and I thought since I put it out there, it would be great encouragement to continue. By day 3, I had lost 6.5 lbs., and I put it out there, so I decided I would continue to document it. Understand the power of the spoken word! Once you put a goal out there, and people begin to believe in you and encourage you, sometimes it can help you stay the course. Although I am more motivated by action than encouragement. I must say that for me, I need encouragement to fast. Living in my purpose, I encourage myself, and people join me in action to complete tasks if need be. Anyway it was great motivation to have my followers encourage me along the way and if I hadn’t put it out there that I was completing this fast, I don’t think I would have stayed the course to be honest.

Well, stay the course my friends, and be sure to rejoice along the way. Each day I completed I said that I would continue on to the next day. I did not wait until the 7 days was over to celebrate. The same way we have to stay the course as a people. As we begin to unite and literally liberate minds one by one, and then the Global Black Diaspora, we have to celebrate every win. If we liberate one mind, let’s celebrate, don’t look at the 2000 that haven’t been liberated, celebrate the 1, and then continue. Take this work day by day, put your goals out there and then let people stay the course with you. I really believe in the full liberation of the Global Black Diaspora, so I count each and every one touched by my message with joy, and I do not ignore them, they are just as important and the thousands and millions more I will reach through my work. I will take it day by day, and if it ever gets too much, I will re-strategize. Will you strategize with me?

Society makes us feel that only accomplished goals matter, and I disagree. Every day won’t work out as planned, but be grateful that it’s still going. If you only look forward to the accomplished goal, then days that don’t go as planned will feel like failure. If you look at yourself that day and know you did the best you could, that is an accomplishment, and it makes you appreciate it much better when you reach the end goal. Celebrating actually releases some happy hormones and gives you the energy to keep going. Burning out due to over-stressing actually delays the process. If you have to re-strategize to do what you have to do, be grateful for even having the mind to re-strategize. Find the grateful in everything, and deal with issues accordingly. We accomplish much more with gratitude through the process. I am not just talking big talk, I actually live this way, when a class in my webinar may have had only one person show up, I still spoke to them as if there were 2000 people listening, and I was grateful for them. I don’t ever consider myself a failure, I only see myself as a winner, and that is my power.


~Ndidi Love~

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Solutions Solutions! Ideas & Conclusions… #ForwardFridays

Hello All! When you’re a solutions person, don’t complain around excessive complainers, because they can only meet you at one level of conversation…

I find that, the reason why so many people can’t relate in conversation with me is because their mind is wired in complaint mode, while mine is wired in solution mode; and as the brethren told me yesterday, “I saw that you turned your words into action”. I believe in my line of work, we as Black people are well versed in the problems because we live them every single day, and we have enough information now that even if we didn’t know everything, we know enough. What I find is that the problems become the eternal conversation, then when solutions, or positive results of past actions are mentioned, people challenge it, refuse to believe it, or they tell you why a solution won’t work. So you mean to tell me that you’re comfortable with the problem? That is why I try my best to not complain unless it’s attached to a solution, I am not always perfect at it though. I know that even as I type these blogs, educate my audience, and write complaints to huge corporations, that I am also actively working towards solutions at the same time; and my efforts in the past have led to solutions. Why should I engage in conversation with a compulsive complainer? I’ll just show them how to get it done, not in a bragging way, but I just do the work, and come back with the results. Does every result change the world? No, but it adds to the collective effort.

Especially on platforms where the world is watching us, they are watching as we shout Black Lives Matter, they are watching as we are the only group that eternally has to fight for reparations – and everything else – we have to actively support those who are trying. I know that many initiatives have let us down and capitalized on the oppression of Black people, and it is hard to trust, but don’t give them that energy, put the energy into what’s working. I know some people watch and wait to see who you are before trusting you, and that backlash when we are continually betrayed comes from hurt. I know that so many people present solutions for their own gain, and really don’t care about Black people even if they are Black. I know that the government has hired black people to betray Black movements. That is why I assured my audience that I am really here for you all, no white person or corporation can hop in my DM’s and sway me away with dollars, nobody can mute my voice when it comes to Black people, and I will not take whatever I gain and run with it. I know people may try, but I will not give in, 401 years of being tricked into selling our people is finished. You all will hold me accountable I know, but all my energy is good for the liberation of Black people, and I ask God everyday to keep me on the right direction.

So my people, let’s rewire our minds to be solutions minded. Even if you think of a problem, think of a solution and put it out there, or at least actively write it down so that it’s out of your head. Next, tell someone; if they think it’s a bad idea, then actively work on it. Use bad advice to understand that their feedback is a reflection of a non-solution based mind. A solution based mind will always try to help build with you or support it in a way, even if they don’t understand it. However, if that is not how your mind operates, then at least be careful of your words towards people who have solutions. And never ever ever listen to a person who says your idea won’t work because “white people won’t let it”. How many times have I heard that? It is advice straight from the devil, because no race can stop what God has in store.

Be well, Melanated Gems.