All the “white people don’t respect us because (fill in the endless blanks), is useless. It began in disrespect during slavery, and it remains that way regardless of what we accomplish. We should want to respect ourselves just because! We accomplish things for ourselves and our legacy/children.
We are not fighting for respect from white people, we are uniting for ourselves to overcome white imposed tragedies. Why would you want respect from people who did non-respectable things to us get where they are? I’d rather us respect each other and go on about our business. We are not in a regular situation here people. As much as people want to act like we are moving forward, those same people are still obsessed with whiteness. Again, breaking it down to the micro level, don’t people always say that a situation you haven’t healed from comes back around? That is the case with black people! For example, there are Black people who feel that because they have made it to a certain status, that these everyday issues don’t affect them, then they cast it off as a class issue, until they realize that class doesn’t protect them from racism. My dear people, that is why I am always giving examples of my life, God made sure I had a life full of examples. I don’t need to cite a study done, we don’t need any more evidence of racism; I tell stories, and give solutions. I keep telling people, I grew up with a life of class status, I am sure my dad would not appreciate me telling his salary, but let’s just say, all 6 of us children were abundantly taken care of. Let’s just say, my dad’s employee looked at him and said “I can’t believe I’m taking orders from a Black man”. Let’s just say, those white people were jealous and broke into our house. Let’s just say a lot of things here okay. I am not the only Black person who grew up with such status, but my comrades have a way of acting like they didn’t experience these things to protect the class status instead of just being honest. Like girl, I know, you know, we know, what we went through but you wanna fake to these people like you had it good with these white people. The way whiteness is protected is sickening. Let a Black person make one mistake and you are ready to call them out but protect the white people who terrorize you? Hey, if that’s what you want and need, but let’s be clear, it will keep happening until you stand up to it and stop protecting it.
In a country where the laws were literally built to protect whiteness, we have no idea the clauses, and even rituals done that could literally determine the outcome of what is happening to Black people even today. Everyone else is doing what they can to protect their communities, we need to get on board. That is why prayer is essential to literally protect ourselves from their law and rituals, I’ll save that for another blog post. My people my people, we cannot keep badgering each other over how white people see us in a land where it’s built on seeing us this way. When I enter a Black business, whatever shortcomings they have, I go to them like a sister – this is true. I remember when I went to Harlem and supported a Senegalese restaurant, the waitress who was a young Black lady was rude to me and my friend, the only 2 Black patrons, and extra nice to the white ones. We waited to see, and it became obvious that she was mistreating us, because remember, blackness is so hated that we have internalized it. Well, we pulled the owner to the side and I explained that as my brother, I took pride in supporting his business, but that the way his waitress behaved was unacceptable, she literally threw my friends’ tea down and it spilled and she left it, crazy. Anyway, he took the advice, because we didn’t just criticize but reminded him that he is our brother. That is how people of the same community should protect each other. Just last month me and my boyfriend walked into a nice seafood restaurant looking good, looking great, and the waitress literally sat us in a side room that was hot, away from the lighted, air conditioned area, and guess who was also seated in this area, other Black people! We demanded to be seated elsewhere – although we could’ve left, but we like demanding better, and we we were seated in the midst of white people who literally looked like “what are they doing here?” with Michael Jackson music playing (they play our music while simultaneously not wanting us there). I have to remind people, when have you walked in a white establishment and been treated like a queen or king? Isn’t that why we fight, to not be treated as second class citizens? So why totally disregard a black businesses because they didn’t meet the “standards” of whiteness? What does that mean, it means, when you are supporting a Black business or event, and they make a mistake (or just not professional) stop saying “this is why white people don’t want to do business with us”. What is it white people’s business what we are doing, we have nothing to prove to them, they did a bad business deal with us and still owe us, so our only business with them is getting what we deserve. I am not building my business, DiasporAfri, LLC to look favorable in the eyes of whites, I am building it because I want to leave a legacy for my children and grandchildren. What you see now is not the end goal of DiasporAfri, but only those close to me know. I know I am professional, according to customers so far who have supported my business, but if I make a mistake, I would not want people to say I shouldn’t make mistakes to avoid being seen as less than in the eyes of white people. I would challenge myself to be a better business person for myself, and my customers; that is all I need.
I know people from all over the world read this blog, I am speaking to Black people about issues and solutions for our community. Yes, whiteness is a thing that plagues the minds of Black people, but it is not for you to judge or try to fix, we got us. I can’t control who reads this blog, but be sure to understand that I am not writing to be seen as favorable, and I will not hide truth to be kind to anybody’s feelings. We need to deal with truth to heal it, and the only way my people will heal is if we get real. People love reminding Black people of our past that we were victims of, and blaming us for our current state, but hate the idea of being reminded of their colonizer past and acknowledging that it is the only reason, not hard work, that got them here today – get over yourselves please. If you feel that you have earned respect and Black people owe it to you to be seen as favorable by you, I have news, It will not be that way any longer, especially not from me or my bloodline. I have stood up and resisted in many spaces and I don’t do it to just be noted, I do it to tell my people “look, this is how it can be done!” I make myself clear when I say I represent black people, because we need spaces that are completely focused on us as we have the most unique position in the world wherever we are. We need to be eradicated from seeing ourselves in the eyes of whiteness; the plantation is gone, I don’t need other Black people reminding me all the time that the whites are watching. I just had this conversation the other day, and a few weeks ago, I had to literally tell other Black people to stop telling me how white people see us – I don’t care. How can I believe my people are healed when we keep talking about being respected by whites all the time? The problem with this logic is that, people use it to justify the killing of Black people. “Well if he just did this”, “well if he just complied”, that is slave talk, it’s not realistic to die for wearing a hoodie, or even die for “talking back” to police. In a country where the law is always against us, there is nothing we can do but respect and protect ourselves. Be sure to sign up for Decolonize Your Mind to dig more deep into the theories and philosophies to help eradicate your mind from this thinking.