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Like Who You Like, Fame is Not Your God.

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I feel like people wait for other people to like a person of talent before they decide to like them. What do the kids call it these days? Clout chasing. If you like someone’s talent and you are genuinely interested in it, why do you need someone else to like them before you show your support? What will actually happen to you that will be so detrimental to you for showing support? Just like who you like without worrying about if they’re popular or not, you know in many entertainment sectors the popularity is controlled by mainly white people who only favor talent that is wrapped in certain characteristics.

Even though everyone is not in an industry for their talents, many people still have an industry mindset, aka white male gaze as I talk about in my Decolonize Your Mind class. People see things through eyes that are manipulated by false characteristics of “success”. You know how it goes, the lighter someone is, their features, their body, their behaviors, all play into popularity in entertainment. Also, people cannot just enjoy something without forcing it to be mainstream, example, I rap from time to time, people are always telling me what I need to do to make it big, and I keep telling people, I don’t want to make it big in an industry. Everyone doesn’t have the same values or want the same results. I’m perfectly fine, performing and interacting with real people, and sharing my talents that way. I am decolonized, I don’t desire fame in certain settings; and if I like someone’s talent, I like them, I don’t wait for them to be mainstream.

I had a coworker years ago who had an album on SoundCloud, I listened to it like everyday. His songs were amazing, and I’m sure not many people knew him, I didn’t care, I heard it, I liked it, I listened, it’s simple. People are really engaged in weirdo behavior. Why can’t you just enjoy what you like? My people my people, join my class and get decolonized, you’ll be alright.


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Call Yourself the Right Name

What I notice is, people love to call their ancestors slaves but hate the idea of calling themselves African. Those slaves were enslaved Africans. How can one consider themselves a descendant of an African slave, but deny their Africanness?

I always say, if you take a Chinese person who has 2 children, one goes to live in another country and never returns, never talks to their parent again, but has children and grandchildren in their new land; that does not cut the blood ties, it only cuts the location. So many people have traced their habits/talents back to tribes in Africa. For example, I met a lady who was so into basket weaving. She stated that she did her DNA ancestry test, and she found out that the tribe in Africa she is from is known for basket weaving. There is noting wrong with acknowledging your roots. People are only ashamed to identify with Africa, because America teaches that African American history starts with slavery, no, Africans have a long history, part of it is slavery, but we were enslaved as victims, that is nothing to be ashamed of, but something to continue to fight against. We take no blame, although society likes to victim blame, we are not to be blamed for the repercussions of slavery, only to be blamed individually if we know better and don’t do better. But let’s not get it twisted, we have done better, extremely better, thrived throughout evil imposed circumstances, revolted at every chance – we never accepted our status as slaves, and have made major world accomplishments that are not credited to us – copyrights and patents stolen. We are so busy listening to narratives by people who are not us, mainly white people, that we forgot, they are paid to paint a negative picture of us, but would never paint that negative picture of themselves. They are so calculated that they framed rapists, murderers, and enslavers as “founding fathers”, and “revolutionaries”, if anything, that is something to be ashamed of. Instead, they want us to be ashamed of something that happened to us, and gaslight us into believing that being loyal to america, one of the countries that enslaved us, is patriotic. Never! I am patriotic to the nation that birthed me, that great nation is Africa, and it will never change. Africa is the reason I am resilient, the reason I am brown, the reason I have tight coily hair, the reason I have a place to call home always, and the reason that the entire earth has resources. Let’s not be fooled, every cell phone you hold is thanks to Africa and Africans. Therefore, being African is nothing to be ashamed of, but everything to celebrate. No matter the current status, we are still the only people in the world who shape every single institution with our ideas, energy, vernacular, style, and resilience. The world would simply not be without Black people, and I mean that.

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#SoulfulSundays – Stay the Course

Hello All! Welcome to a new week! Many of my social media followers know that I did a 7 day water and honey fast from February 28th to March 6th. I actually didn’t plan it until I noticed my body needed a reset and I needed to do something quick. I hadn’t done a 7 day fast since 11 years ago, even though I fast intermittently, often, so I didn’t know how I was going to do. I said “let me take it day by day, and if I ever can’t take it, I’ll stop”. I started documenting day 2 with my followers, and I thought since I put it out there, it would be great encouragement to continue. By day 3, I had lost 6.5 lbs., and I put it out there, so I decided I would continue to document it. Understand the power of the spoken word! Once you put a goal out there, and people begin to believe in you and encourage you, sometimes it can help you stay the course. Although I am more motivated by action than encouragement. I must say that for me, I need encouragement to fast. Living in my purpose, I encourage myself, and people join me in action to complete tasks if need be. Anyway it was great motivation to have my followers encourage me along the way and if I hadn’t put it out there that I was completing this fast, I don’t think I would have stayed the course to be honest.

Well, stay the course my friends, and be sure to rejoice along the way. Each day I completed I said that I would continue on to the next day. I did not wait until the 7 days was over to celebrate. The same way we have to stay the course as a people. As we begin to unite and literally liberate minds one by one, and then the Global Black Diaspora, we have to celebrate every win. If we liberate one mind, let’s celebrate, don’t look at the 2000 that haven’t been liberated, celebrate the 1, and then continue. Take this work day by day, put your goals out there and then let people stay the course with you. I really believe in the full liberation of the Global Black Diaspora, so I count each and every one touched by my message with joy, and I do not ignore them, they are just as important and the thousands and millions more I will reach through my work. I will take it day by day, and if it ever gets too much, I will re-strategize. Will you strategize with me?

Society makes us feel that only accomplished goals matter, and I disagree. Every day won’t work out as planned, but be grateful that it’s still going. If you only look forward to the accomplished goal, then days that don’t go as planned will feel like failure. If you look at yourself that day and know you did the best you could, that is an accomplishment, and it makes you appreciate it much better when you reach the end goal. Celebrating actually releases some happy hormones and gives you the energy to keep going. Burning out due to over-stressing actually delays the process. If you have to re-strategize to do what you have to do, be grateful for even having the mind to re-strategize. Find the grateful in everything, and deal with issues accordingly. We accomplish much more with gratitude through the process. I am not just talking big talk, I actually live this way, when a class in my webinar may have had only one person show up, I still spoke to them as if there were 2000 people listening, and I was grateful for them. I don’t ever consider myself a failure, I only see myself as a winner, and that is my power.


~Ndidi Love~

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Solutions Solutions! Ideas & Conclusions… #ForwardFridays

Hello All! When you’re a solutions person, don’t complain around excessive complainers, because they can only meet you at one level of conversation…

I find that, the reason why so many people can’t relate in conversation with me is because their mind is wired in complaint mode, while mine is wired in solution mode; and as the brethren told me yesterday, “I saw that you turned your words into action”. I believe in my line of work, we as Black people are well versed in the problems because we live them every single day, and we have enough information now that even if we didn’t know everything, we know enough. What I find is that the problems become the eternal conversation, then when solutions, or positive results of past actions are mentioned, people challenge it, refuse to believe it, or they tell you why a solution won’t work. So you mean to tell me that you’re comfortable with the problem? That is why I try my best to not complain unless it’s attached to a solution, I am not always perfect at it though. I know that even as I type these blogs, educate my audience, and write complaints to huge corporations, that I am also actively working towards solutions at the same time; and my efforts in the past have led to solutions. Why should I engage in conversation with a compulsive complainer? I’ll just show them how to get it done, not in a bragging way, but I just do the work, and come back with the results. Does every result change the world? No, but it adds to the collective effort.

Especially on platforms where the world is watching us, they are watching as we shout Black Lives Matter, they are watching as we are the only group that eternally has to fight for reparations – and everything else – we have to actively support those who are trying. I know that many initiatives have let us down and capitalized on the oppression of Black people, and it is hard to trust, but don’t give them that energy, put the energy into what’s working. I know some people watch and wait to see who you are before trusting you, and that backlash when we are continually betrayed comes from hurt. I know that so many people present solutions for their own gain, and really don’t care about Black people even if they are Black. I know that the government has hired black people to betray Black movements. That is why I assured my audience that I am really here for you all, no white person or corporation can hop in my DM’s and sway me away with dollars, nobody can mute my voice when it comes to Black people, and I will not take whatever I gain and run with it. I know people may try, but I will not give in, 401 years of being tricked into selling our people is finished. You all will hold me accountable I know, but all my energy is good for the liberation of Black people, and I ask God everyday to keep me on the right direction.

So my people, let’s rewire our minds to be solutions minded. Even if you think of a problem, think of a solution and put it out there, or at least actively write it down so that it’s out of your head. Next, tell someone; if they think it’s a bad idea, then actively work on it. Use bad advice to understand that their feedback is a reflection of a non-solution based mind. A solution based mind will always try to help build with you or support it in a way, even if they don’t understand it. However, if that is not how your mind operates, then at least be careful of your words towards people who have solutions. And never ever ever listen to a person who says your idea won’t work because “white people won’t let it”. How many times have I heard that? It is advice straight from the devil, because no race can stop what God has in store.

Be well, Melanated Gems.