Hello All! When you’re a solutions person, don’t complain around excessive complainers, because they can only meet you at one level of conversation…
I find that, the reason why so many people can’t relate in conversation with me is because their mind is wired in complaint mode, while mine is wired in solution mode; and as the brethren told me yesterday, “I saw that you turned your words into action”. I believe in my line of work, we as Black people are well versed in the problems because we live them every single day, and we have enough information now that even if we didn’t know everything, we know enough. What I find is that the problems become the eternal conversation, then when solutions, or positive results of past actions are mentioned, people challenge it, refuse to believe it, or they tell you why a solution won’t work. So you mean to tell me that you’re comfortable with the problem? That is why I try my best to not complain unless it’s attached to a solution, I am not always perfect at it though. I know that even as I type these blogs, educate my audience, and write complaints to huge corporations, that I am also actively working towards solutions at the same time; and my efforts in the past have led to solutions. Why should I engage in conversation with a compulsive complainer? I’ll just show them how to get it done, not in a bragging way, but I just do the work, and come back with the results. Does every result change the world? No, but it adds to the collective effort.
Especially on platforms where the world is watching us, they are watching as we shout Black Lives Matter, they are watching as we are the only group that eternally has to fight for reparations – and everything else – we have to actively support those who are trying. I know that many initiatives have let us down and capitalized on the oppression of Black people, and it is hard to trust, but don’t give them that energy, put the energy into what’s working. I know some people watch and wait to see who you are before trusting you, and that backlash when we are continually betrayed comes from hurt. I know that so many people present solutions for their own gain, and really don’t care about Black people even if they are Black. I know that the government has hired black people to betray Black movements. That is why I assured my audience that I am really here for you all, no white person or corporation can hop in my DM’s and sway me away with dollars, nobody can mute my voice when it comes to Black people, and I will not take whatever I gain and run with it. I know people may try, but I will not give in, 401 years of being tricked into selling our people is finished. You all will hold me accountable I know, but all my energy is good for the liberation of Black people, and I ask God everyday to keep me on the right direction.
So my people, let’s rewire our minds to be solutions minded. Even if you think of a problem, think of a solution and put it out there, or at least actively write it down so that it’s out of your head. Next, tell someone; if they think it’s a bad idea, then actively work on it. Use bad advice to understand that their feedback is a reflection of a non-solution based mind. A solution based mind will always try to help build with you or support it in a way, even if they don’t understand it. However, if that is not how your mind operates, then at least be careful of your words towards people who have solutions. And never ever ever listen to a person who says your idea won’t work because “white people won’t let it”. How many times have I heard that? It is advice straight from the devil, because no race can stop what God has in store.
Be well, Melanated Gems.