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Dear Warrior: Enjoy Every Moment – #SoulfulSunday’s

Melanated Gem; enjoy yourself. We have so much to fight for in this world, our freedoms are always being taken advantage of, we are constantly being gaslighted and told to forget the racism that has shaped us as a people. The idea of leaving the house and having to deal with racism in every system possible is not one to look forward to. I read an article the other day that the Black life expectancy rate is down since 2018, lower than other races. I’ll be danged if I don’t find a way to have fun while fighting this fight.

White supremacy is an agenda. The point is to make you so depressed and caught up in what you have going on that you don’t enjoy life. There’s no way in the world I’m going to let a group of people who have stolen my people’s land, opportunities, and resources to steal my joy too?! Absolutely not. At a point I just force myself to have fun, turn on the music, and dance! I continue the fight for redemption always.

Everyday there can be information that can cause you to seriously have stress. Like knowing slavery is still legal under the 13th amendment. The one thing about laws is, they have clauses. However, like I said in last weeks Soulful Sunday post, there will always be something to fight in this country, as we each do our part, we relieve ourselves to be able to be free. If we don’t do our individual parts, we make it stressful for the few of us who’s trying.

I still won’t allow anything to take my joy, I need that balance to refuel for the next battle. I’m leaving this country very soon, until then, I will dance!

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Warrior, Be At Peace, Here’s How… #SoulfulSundays

Melanated Gem, be at peace. Hear me out. There’s a fight we’re fighting, but I also want you to have a peaceful life to put energy into the gifts you have to offer the world. Listen up, then tell me what you think!

There’s a difference between fighting white supremacy and acts of injustice, and just being straight up mean to everybody. If you are going to fight, fight for something, melanated gem, stand up for yourself against bullies, and protect your fellow Black people, but avoid causing trouble just to cause trouble, I’ll tell you why. In a world where our peace is always being violated as Black people, we will never run out of things to fight against. That being said, we can keep our peace by saving our energy for the necessary fight.

Also, we cannot be fighting the world and fighting each other, Melanated gems. Calling our fellow Melanated gems names like ugly – because of our Black features, making fun of their income, poverty, and other external things – that doesn’t help us. We have to choose a fight, and the last person we need to fight is our fellow gems. I get it, we won’t like everybody – I don’t like everybody, but not liking someone and also being kind is possible. There have been Black people I haven’t liked, maybe from clash in personality, and I have still treated them kind because I do not have to go home with them. Whatever they did that needs addressing, I address it, then continue on with my life.

I get really sad when I see us tearing each other down for looks – based on standards of white supremacy, and shaming each other for income, knowing dang well the actual statistics of what happens to us as Black people on a daily basis. In my opinion, if you aren’t helping provide opportunities, then why put the person down? If you aren’t marrying that person, why tear down their looks? It’s hard enough when white supremacy steals the opportunities, underpays us, tries to downplay our looks and appropriate our looks at the same time; how we turn around and do that to each other, I don’t get. Then, when I don’t participate in tearing us down, people look at me as if I’m being “high and mighty”. Here’s a disclaimer, don’t come around me down talking black people, it won’t work. If I choose to celebrate us, even to a fault, well dang it, there’s enough hate towards us so just let me love us in peace. I’m not the one to down talk Black peoples hair, looks, income, and profession, or even actions people deem as “ghetto”; so go on ahead somewhere else with that, thanks. I’m not going to be out here fighting white supremacy and fighting black people too, I need peace at some point in my life. I’m also not out here just tearing down individuals of any racial background, unprovoked; I care about justice and uplifting Black people. I address acts of injustice, I advocate, I withhold my support from racist organizations, and I don’t let anybody get away with mistreatment of myself or any other black person, but inherently I’m kind. I’m not naive to white supremacy and I move carefully, but I’m not participating in tearing down individuals on things unrelated to social justice, I’m fighting a system that those individuals many times represent. Until then, I have to live a life of peace, fight the good fight, not befriend everybody, but move strategically to accomplish all I have been set on this earth to accomplish. That includes exuding kindness and positivity, especially to other Black people; in fact my kindness increases towards other Black people.

Again, I don’t tell everyone how to react to their oppression, and as I’ve said before in another blog post, love thy neighbor won’t change laws, but I’m just saying what I do to keep a balance of peace. No, we don’t owe forgiveness for how Black people are treated on a daily basis, we don’t owe a handshake or looking away from our treatment, but I’m not just going to the grocery store to be mean to people, because that affects my peace. However, if a white person discriminates against me in that grocery store, I’ll surely address it accordingly and make an example out of them by taking it to the next level, as I always have, and trust me, that takes a lot of energy, so I need to reserve it.

Choose your battle, my Melanated gem. I can guarantee you won’t be lacking in them so long as we are in this here America. Don’t bypass a necessary battle either, fight for your rights, and then make room for your gifts, like arts and crafts for example. I want you to live a happy, peaceful life too, even in this battle.

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When they know they Know

Sometimes you will be confused, melanated gems, why you put yourself out there, and it seems like, people don’t feel the same way about what you do as you do. You put your all into your craft, and the people who you think would love what you do are actually the ones who fall off. It’s not that they don’t know you’re good, they just don’t want it to be you. Remember the pie I talked about in my last blog post? The white supremacy pie that makes everyone who’s not a part of that system fight for one piece? Well, it fuels insecurity and competition.

We already know the statistics, Black women start 763 businesses a day. On a whole, we have to work harder to sustain because we just don’t get the support needed to sustain. I am so happy when I see Black owned businesses because I know what it took to get there. I’m here to tell you that, if the idea was given to you, it’s because you were supposed to fulfill it. What other people say is only their input/opinion, but it is not part of your design. Even the system who rejects you, is not part of your design. Don’t you know, melanated gem, that opposition has to come when you are on the path to greatness, and it may be sad or confusing when it’s your own people, but just remember, we have a lot to do in terms of self love amongst the Black population. Our global self love was robbed from us, you achieving your gift will allow others to achieve the same.

Even though we live in a system that is built for our oppression, we should never, ever, doubt our gifts. People actually know you are good, in fact, you’ve heard it your whole life from unlikely people, you know it’s in your heart every second of the day; and although encouragement is nice, it’s not necessary when you know what you have inside of you. I’ve come to understand that on the road to greatness, opposition comes to force out the greatness in you. I also understand that in my own path, elders always encourage me and recognize the greatness in me, they always encourage me to keep going! Your encouragers are there, just keep them and ignore the rest. Any important, valid feedback will always help build up, it will never tear down.

When they know, they know; but what’s more important is that you know. You know the greatness inside of you, you know what makes you light up, so keep that, and if anyone in your life doesn’t aid in that path, unfortunately, they can go! Your work may benefit them in the long run.

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Colonization under a different name… #DearBlackPeople

I usually don’t get into this, unless relating it to a point I want to make to Black people – my melanated gems – however, I think it’s important to understand the root of many of the injustices we see today. White supremacy is a pie, a really old pie, but a pie nonetheless; they’ve taken that old pie and cut out 1 piece to throw out to everyone else to fight over. The 5% of people are fighting over the one piece of pie while white supremacy is enjoying 95% of the pie, and there are crumbs falling from their pie. Then they say, besides the piece we’ve given the rest of you, if one of you would like these crumbs, you can come join us. Therefore, the one or few non-white people take the crumbs, and they feel like they’ve made it, even though they really don’t benefit from the 95% of the pie generationally, so when they try to advance and make progress with the 95%, the 95% reminds them, “you should be happy with your crumbs!” I actually heard a story just like that from a Black woman before, when she asked for a raise after 7 years from her job as the only Black woman working with all white men; and I saw it happen with my dad, when his business was excelling, how his white peers began to become viscous enemies.

What does this have to do with colonization? Well, it’s all the same, the same reason colonization happened, is the same reason for gentrification, marginalization, globalization, and hateration that comes to any Black person who tries to fully succeed and liberate themselves within this colonial construct. The purpose was for white supremacy to keep the pie and eliminate anyone who tried to access more of the pie than they were allotted. That is why Black people rightfully don’t trust Black politicians, because a lot of times they are in and representing the system that they can’t betray. This redemption work is the work of the “regular” people, we don’t have any ties to a system that we owe allegiance to. That is why when I was meeting with Congress and Senate members this past summer, I was happy that I was not attached to any organization, because I could speak freely about my purpose and my faith as it relates to redemption work for Black people. I didn’t have to filter myself, and that’s what we need, we need people without a filter, someone who’s not invested in the advancement of all people, but Black people. Colonization only is upheld out of fear, on both sides; fear from white supremacists that they will lose something that was never theirs, and fear from Black people that we could literally lose our lives trying to fight for it. I remember watching the news a few years ago and hearing 4 or 5 white men admit that they are scared to lose power. Well, again, we have to take back the pie, and unite to demand it. When one person comes up against a system such as colonization, it is hard, but when hundreds of thousands do, it is beneficial.

Let’s do this work together,