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You Can’t Insult My Blackness…

If you’re calling me ghetto to imply that I’m acting black, fine. If you’re calling me ratchet to imply that what I’m doing embodies Black qualities, fine. Im not saying you’re right in your words, I’m saying that I’m not insulted, because I know it’s your way of saying I’m acting Black, and I am black, so I act Black. I notice that this society labels anything Black people do that literally everyone else does as ratchet or ghetto. You’ve done it too. You see black people being loud, you say, “why are they being so ghetto?” No one thinks to say, “they’re being loud”, because that would be too simple to call an action an action. You see a white girl with pink hair and she’s creative, the black girl with the pink wig is ghetto. I lived in Washington, DC and I witnessed this daily. I see a group of white kids being loud at the train station, everyone literally laughs it off, “they’re just being kids”, “they must be excited about the hockey games”, “I wonder what they’re excited about?”. Black teenagers being loud? “See this is why they end up in jail”… for being loud? Wow black crimes get more interesting everyday!

I told you all that Black people are not always wrong, we are just criminalized, a very big difference. Blackness has been ingrained in peoples minds as some type of defect. We can’t just be loud and excited, it has to be attached to some negativity, but let me ask you, have you ever been to a black church? Wedding? Cookout? Anything? Tell me if you notice a difference in our expressions versus, pretty much everyone else’s. Ok, ok, you say Indians are just as loud at their events, but you call that culture my friend. What happens when you rob a people of their culture and minimize it? Exhibit A-Z being Africans and descendants all over the world, you mislabel it and interpret it according to whatever Europeans stated that it was, and that my friends, is wrong.

There are ways to describe our cultural expressions: happy, excited, enthusiastic – these things can be heard as loud and boisterous, and can be displayed with great body movements. I encourage you to go to YouTube and view some African cultural practices such as Ogene dance, and see if you notice similarities. We are a people of great movement, excitement, loudness, and proudness – not ghetto. Even when we are angry, it can be loud and passionate, you know, the way you describe white peoples anger – “oh she was just having a bad day, she was passionate about it and had to raise her voice”. Add the name Shaniqua to where the word “she” is, and see if that even sounds right. It should sound right, but Shaniqua would’ve been labeled as angry and loud for no reason, and “she could’ve handled it different”. Mind you she’s just been robbed but often black people are told to remain calm……. to not be seen as ghetto. Haha! You all don’t remember the famous Karen video last month (July 2021) where the white lady was BUGGING in bath and body works, shouting like a baby at the Black woman, but people in the store were telling the Black lady to calm down and she was the calm one! Y’all have to start seeing your anti-blackness and actively change it.

People actually provoke black people to be angry, then when we react, they say it’s ghetto behavior. I have seen it with my own 2 eyes many times. It has happened to me. White people and others, sometimes even other black people who feel that they’re not ghetto, literally say the most disturbing, provoking, things; and when you react, “why do you have to be so ghetto?” It’s the whole victim blaming, “I know I said the wrong thing but you don’t have to react like someone from the ghetto”. Hahaha! Hey listen, like I said, Black people, not all, but collectively we’re naturally loud. Growing up, my “Nigerian” side was so loud, that everyone knows what I’m about to say, “Nigerians” can be having a normal conversation but you’ll think they are arguing, especially coming from America. They’ll be like “no we’re just having a normal discussion”. That’s it my people, we are just loud. (I think you know why I put Nigerian in quotes).

Listen, there are loud black people who live in these so called ghetto’s that are actually gentrified areas and many times represent places that were once flourishing for Black people; but the government couldn’t have that so they actively removed resources, sometimes with violence and burning, leaving the black people in those areas as now newly created poor people (google six square in Austin, Texas). An area of living that lacks resources can sometimes lead to behaviors that help survival, you may call that crime, fine, but remember that the original crime was capitalism and the ghetto hood rat behavior that is colonization. Y’all don’t remember how America was “founded”, and maintained? On violence, rape, killing, and destroying every area they placed foot, to include actively withholding resources from whole communities they feel are not deserving. Face it, and you can say whatever you want, every attempt for Black people to flourish as a community is stopped by the government, individually no problem, but community? No. That’s another blog post though.

Do you know that growing up with white kids, they labeled my butt as “ghetto booty”, literally in 7th and 8th grade, the white kids used to call me “ghetto booty”. My body part, a butt like everyone else. I lived in the same neighborhood as them, my whole life, but because they are ignorant, they labeled me “ghetto booty”, don’t you people have shame sometimes? So I beg you to remember that the next time you criminalize my loudness, or anything for that matter. Oh, I’m going to be loud, hopefully you hear me, and when you label me ghetto just remember that I’m not ashamed of being black. Did I grow up in the ghetto? It doesn’t matter because I’m not ashamed of being lumped in with Black behaviors. You see them as bad, I see them as culture, carry on.

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Leave Queen Harriet Tubman Alone

Let her rest, knowing that all she fought for is actually… and Black women who look like her are actually being treated… *sigh*

Ok, you know what, Black people, my beloved gems, we have to stop being so excited over mediocrity. When will we get tired? When I look at the stats and the numbers of Black women still being the highest educated and least paid, most likely to be mistreated by the healthcare system, and the most likely to be mistreated by any institution – you want me to believe that a $20 bill with the Empress Warrior Harriet Tubman will suffice? Listen, America, don’t even disrespect us, or Harriet, by continuing to mistreat the very women who look like her, and mistreating the people that she fought for. You all must be out of your minds to think that is anywhere near the fulfillment of an executive order on racial equity, anywhere near reparations, or an indication of Black Lives Matter to the masses.

Please! We cannot continue to settle when America upholds an actual system that needs to be eradicated. The very currency that represents America, represents oppression, on a mass scale. As someone else online also mentioned, all the 17 executive orders of 2021 have been targeted to eliminate very specific issues for Hispanic and Native American communities, but when it comes to us, putting our QUEEN on a $20 bill is supposed to be an effort at ending racial inequity? America, do us a favor and stop gaslighting us. As a matter of fact, I can’t tell people to stop, should I expect them to magically change after 401 years? However, I can tell us, as Black people, my beautiful gems, what we should do – we have to reject this mediocrity at all costs. Stay vigilant! Don’t be appeased by crumbs, agitate for change until we get every piece of land, food, business, t-shirt – everything we deserve! Everything made out of cotton, should be ours.

I told you all, I don’t trust president #45 or #46, and it is my right. Should I trust a man who showed us 3 times in 2020 that he doesn’t value Black people, with his words, simply because he “picked” a Black and Asian woman as his Vice President? “Pick me pick me” has to end with Black people, my beloved gems. America, don’t pick me if you’re still upholding oppression masking it as inclusion. I have been saying it for years, inclusion and diversity is a scam. Don’t be fooled by 400 year tactics, it’s all a scam!

There’s still time to register for the 8 part Dear Black People™ Webinar Series and upcoming extended individual courses! Join me for the next 4 weeks! DiasporAfri.com/events

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The Key to Results is Simple! #Motivation

Hello Everyone! So by this time you all know that this week starts off the Dear Black People™ Webinar Series, and I successfully completed my first webinar class last night! Waiting on the reviews to come in! Well, many people may wonder, “what will I get out of it?” Good question!

You see, I have a history of proving people wrong, especially when it comes to the work my Black students and clients can accomplish. When other “professionals” say it can’t be done, I show them how it’s going to get done.

I will never forget, the many times, but one particular time when I proved a fellow teacher wrong about a Black student, right before her eyes. She was speechless, and had nothing to say. She said “he can’t do this, I’ve tried many times!”; and literally, 1 minute later, I showed him once, and encouraged him to independently do what she said he couldn’t do. Sure, he was labeled “mentally disabled” (ADHD), he was young – about 5 years old, and he was shy, but he felt my love! With my love, encouragement, and example; he accomplished in 1 minute what his teacher said he couldn’t do all year long.

Listen up people, in my line of work, doing what’s right doesn’t get you loved by your “professional” peers, it gets you hated. For the mere fact that I go against the grain, and the strategies set in place to make our people, Black people, fail, and I prove it wrong every. single. time – I have been outcast, hated on, and people have tried to make my life difficult, because I believe in my people, and I help them make it happen! There’s no demographic or income background that can prove me wrong. GOD always has a better plan for me. Imagine being outcast and finding out 2 weeks later that I’m going to teach in AFRICA, then in Africa, I won the hardest working teacher award, there’s a reason! The world really doesn’t want Black people to win on a global scale! They want a chosen few, but we can change that by staying on code, unifying, and teaching others how to overcome, instead of expecting them to know!

The key is? I do it from the heart! My motivation is, what God has put inside me to educate and motivate everyone in my path to their best abilities! Many people over the years have thanked me for not only building their confidence, but living it to show how it can be done! It’s not only Black people who have thanked me for showing them how to be confident, it’s people all over, from Chinese, to Muslim, to Indian, and White, but I was put on this earth to instill that confidence in Black people! We think higher, we aim higher, we do better, and not because someone let us, but because it’s in us!

I’ll never forget the day I was at a 4 month temp job & I fought for all of us to get $2 more, while coworkers were telling me, “you’re not Obama” guess what, I got us all the raise that day! Next thing, everyone was thanking me & wanted to eat lunch with me. Who was going to tell me not to fight? Not the people that were scared. When you are fearless, you are concerned about what’s right, not what’s popular, and you don’t take peoples word at face value, you find out for yourself!

Find out more with me, starting this week! Register here!

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Transform your mind… #DearBlackPeople

Any student that has sat before me has performed better, with more confidence.

Any client that I’ve had enters the world more confidently, accomplishing more.

I expect excellence from anyone who sits before me, and I make sure it happens.

Getting everyone results is my top concern, I don’t just say “you can do it”, I show you HOW to do it!

I’ll never forget the day I was at a 4 month temp job & I fought for all of us to get $2 more, while coworkers were telling me, “you’re not Obama” guess what, I got us all the raise that day! Next thing, everyone was thanking me & wanted to eat lunch with me. 😂

Many people over the years have thanked me for being the example of what confidence looks like, and standing up for what’s right, not popular, and encouraging them to do the same, & I want every Black person to understand their worth and purpose outside of everything we’ve ever known!!

The best part is, I’ve done the work of decolonizing my mind, myself, so I speak from a place of experience.

Through this course, you will decolonize your mind, build a legacy for your bloodline, and make systemic change. You will transform your life, and the Black Lives around you, with a decolonized mind, Dear Black People…

Join me for for the next 4 weeks!!!!!!

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