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Whether You Like it or Not, Anti-Blackness is in Everything: Here’s How We Move Forward

man in white shirt looking at the documents on the desk

It’s not rocket science, the institutions that have implemented and enforced the racist policies that impact us all today, they are not gone. This is why I say, I know the importance of unity and sticking together, but individually we must be able to stand up and challenge every situation that we face. As we gradually begin to take personal responsibility for situations that happen to us in every racist situation, big or small, in every institution – medical, educational, workplace, corporate, legal, social, everywhere!

I was talking to my great aunt, well, she’s my grandmothers first cousin, we always talk. She is in her 70s, and so lovely, she tells me stories of being the first Black manager at AT&T years and years ago, and all the stories of racism, while overcoming to still make some of the most accomplishments while there. I have the same stories she has years later, and we share stories a lot, I am at least 40 years younger than her. We cannot ignore that a lot of these micro and macro aggressions are literally embedded in the framework and thinking of people. Even if let’s say, someone is naïve enough to believe that greater society has eradicated racism, the very fiber of how we interact is seen at work, where most people make a living, and social events/social activities, where most people gather. In these institutions, this is where many of these acts of racism are seen and the most impactful. The reason why I can go to the store right now and be confusingly greeted with “is there something you need?”, when the white person right before me was greeted with “hi, welcome, how may I help you?”, is because of the literal DNA of these institutions. I remember the most recent outrageous one was at the post office a few weeks ago; I literally walked in, fly as could be, and the post office worker was like “umm is there something you need?’ maybe because the post office is in an all white area, she was confused by seeing me – too bad for her, however, I said “I’m here for my health, no, obviously I’m here because I want to send out a package.” Again, I had just watched the white customers be greeted with joy and extra care as I stood in line. Why else would I be coming to your business if I didn’t need help? That is why I have an attitude in my response everytime and allow them to see their ignorance real time. You may not think it matters but, it helps not to be passive. This is a common occurrence in every institution I enter that requires me to receive customer service, and it’s because people are ignorant and think black people don’t require good service, or we should just be happy that someone is even talking to us. Watch very closely, that is why diversity and inclusion is a scam; they will include you, as long as they can still talk to you any kind of way. What we fight for is total liberation.

I am not passive with the little or the big things, because I have heard many people say we should overcome those little moments with kindness and kill their ignorance. My sisters and brothers, no! We have been kind through slavery, jim crown, civil rights, and now Black Lives Matter, all while being the only people in the world to not receive reparation’s or any kind of bill protecting us as every other group has. Different name, same fight, you may not see a plantation but as I said in Tuesday’s blog post, they still behave as if the plantation is there. So we are constantly running away from the plantation, we should not be compliant or passive on the plantation, the pseudo slavemasters need to know that we do not accept micro or macro aggressions against us and that we will fight everytime, and we won’t stop until they are eradicated, just like the Asians did to receive the Anti-hate bill, you get me?

I like to bring things down to a micro level often, so people understand me. If you are in a relationship, and the person keeps disrespecting you, the day you finally stand up, they may laugh and think you are not serious, until you show them that their disrespect could cost them the relationship. The relationship between whiteness and Blackness, (as I wrote about in this blog post) and unfortunately the entire world that has taken on a whiteness stance towards the treatment of Black people, is very toxic, yet the world depends on Blackness and Africa’s resources to sustain every institution. Passiveness is not how we regain control of our livelihoods and resources, active challenging makes it easier for us to be a united front.

What will you do to stand up today?

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Get Ready For July Decolonize Your Mind Classes!

Hello my Melanated Gems! I have so much in store for you for the upcoming Decolonize Your Mind™ Classes. I am revamping the classes for a better experience the next time around, starting July 5th and recurring through the month of July on July 6th, 12th, 19th, and 26th. The rest of the courses throughout the series will be offered on July 13th, 20th, and 27th. The series will now consist of 4 classes instead of 8, I have revamped a lot of the information to cover them in 4 courses. I have learned what is most important to my audience, and catered the information to address those issues head on, you all will not want to miss this experience. The links to register for the remainder of the classes will be available on June 30th, so be on the lookout! In the meantime, thank you all for being so supportive of the Melanated Gem™ Jewelry series, you all seem to really love the RBG Freedom items. I now have 4, 5 star items out of 10 items, and a 4.5 star course based on reviews from those who have attended the class. I created these items to also help build my business and offer classes to those in the Global Black Diaspora who are most vulnerable and need access to information that will help them become free and be empowered. I make everything with you all in mind, the energy invoked into each item is to exude freedom, love of self and love of others in the Global Black Diaspora, it’s time to unite!!!

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Our Origins Move Us Forward… #ForwardFridays

Hey Y’all! I often hear people say that “history doesn’t matter” or, “don’t stay stuck in the past”. That narrative is often posed to Black people, trying to gaslight us into forgetting our past, the good and the bad. If we say “we were queens and kings”, someone will say, “well we aren’t now”; if we say “we were enslaved and we are owed reparations”, someone will say “well we aren’t slaves now”. The point is, all of our history matters, why?

Well, there is nothing new under the sun. I remember living in Namibia and them teaching me the importance of hairstyles. Braided hairstyles on both women and men could tell the person’s age and status, along with jewelry and markings that furthered these symbols (widow, wife, etc.). There was a particular hairstyle that was designated for little boys, it was two braids, braided towards the front or the back with the rest of the head shaved off. I remember coming back to the US, and 2 years later, that style becoming popular over here with the men. I told someone one day that their hairstyle is symbolic to Himba culture in Namibia and they laughed. Again, if we knew what a lot of the things we do mean, we would not take them so lightly. What if they knew that their hairstyle was a symbol of boyhood, and the next level hairstyle represented manhood, or even that it identified the tribe they were from? He could either wear it with pride, or wear the hairstyle that represents his status as a man! Through enslavement, all these identifiers were taken from us, and that part is important too! However, the fact that the royalty still found its way into the diaspora even through enslavement is why it matters, because we can still celebrate and live out our royalty, building on the legacy of the ancestors, even though some feel like they are doomed, and there’s still work to do…

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I always get excited when I find cultural similarities between the diaspora, it’s the sociologist in me, but I find that others do not care. As I stated yesterday, freed Africans purchased their own land in Texas to even be able to celebrate Juneteenth in peace without being harassed for being on “white property”. Now, we are still being harassed on land that belongs to all of us, and in the spaces where we celebrate ourselves, we are not really living out the true meaning of these holidays and celebrations. Not that it has to be 100% serious, but we should always use these spaces to educate and edify and empower. There’s always the 1 Black person at the cookout who wants to celebrate blackness and teach everyone there, everything they know (I’ve been that person), but they get laughed at or told “this is not a Harriet Tubman moment” , you know what I’m talking about and you know I’m not lying. We always have people trying to remind us, but because of brainwashing, we are told to forget, or laughed at…. our origins matter!

So, this weekend, as you celebrate Juneteenth, and every other holiday for us, be sure to use those moments to be that person, whether laughed at or not. Educate, edify, and empower, trust me, they are listening!

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Juneteenth is more than a day! It’s a lifestyle… & a surprise!!!!

Juneteenth, well, it’s a nice little combination between the words June and nineteenth, but what does it really mean?

You see, when slavery was abolished (not out of the kindness of America’s heart but to calm the rising storm of civil wars), there were reluctant states that did not want to end slavery, namely, TEXAS, also a couple of other states, but I would like to redirect the attention back to the enslaved Africans in this story.

First celebrated in Galveston, Texas; freed Africans held celebrations to commemorate the ending of slavery in June 19, 1865 (3 years after Abraham Lincolns emancipation proclamation), it is considered the “longest-running African-American holiday”. These celebrations were often held in churches, or near bodies of water, because even though we were physically “free”, we were still “prohibited” from using public facilities. It is Black people’s TRUE Independence Day, we don’t celebrate July 4th around here being that we were still enslaved while white Americans were fighting to be free from the British. We celebrate Juneteenth with educational events, barbecues, and use the time to reflect on where we’ve come from, strategizing where we’re going.

After a while, the holiday became more commercialized, and in Texas, became a paid reduced staff holiday. It used to be called Jubilee Day amongst other names, because it truly was a celebration of freedom. Black Texans raised their own money to purchase 10 acres of land to celebrate Juneteenth, that meant a lot to celebrate our own holiday on on own land. It soon gathered Black Texans from all over Texas. I often say that what used to be survival for us has now become commercialized and watered down. I say that about everything from Caribbean carnival to jerk Chicken to African spirituality. We’ve now commercialized it for tweets and likes and sponsorships. I would like to remind us all that we should get to the root of our traditions, not that we shouldn’t have fun, but we should never take it for granted. Everything we do should be to uplift our people, make sure we educate our communities, celebrate our holidays, and sell our products with joy and integrity, with authenticity.

I created the Juneteenth sale because I want to celebrate it with something the customers can take away with meaning. These Melanated Gem RBG Freedom sets were created for my audience (who mostly identify as Pan-Africans) but with an empowerment message, I pray you all receive the items with joy and truly understand your purpose and value. I created the Decolonize Your Mind courses to really help us break down the walls of colonialism in our mind body and spirit, and for individuals to walk away understanding their purpose. As you all know, DiasporAfri, LLC is for all Black people, the Global Black Diaspora, I like to highlight holidays and traditions that are meaningful to us, but I always remind us that the work is 365. I hope that the whole Global Black Diaspora can join along in celebrating Juneteenth as we begin to join our movements together.

Enjoy 20% off of Melanated Gem RBG Freedom Sets until 6/21, enjoy 50% off July Decolonize Your Mind Courses until 6/21 as well. I strive to provide service for the Global Black Diaspora with the upmost joy and integrity. Happy Juneteenth, everyone, we are FREE!!!!!!!