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The Plantation is Physically Gone, Now Get it Out of Your Mind! #TeachMeTuesdays

a mother sitting on a bench with her child

White people love dissension between black people. It’s the one thing they have carried on that they haven’t even realized, or have realized – either way I don’t care, I just know that for them, black people disagreeing is a show. I will have already built 10 schools if I had a dollar for everytime a white person has tried to cause dissension between myself and another black person, or when I witnessed it happen to other Black people I know. Literally, I remember when I was a substitute teacher while I was in grad school, and I worked permanently at a school that had a black principal, but every teacher was white except 1. When the principal would send me to classrooms, the white teachers would always say “we don’t need her”, mind you, my reputation and results with the students was great (why the principal wanted me there permanently). Well, finally, a new student came that was very active I should say, he happened to be a student of the only Black teacher. The principal assigned me to him permanently for the rest of the year, because he needed a one on one. You can guess what happened next, ALL the white teachers got upset, and said the principal was showing favoritism to the Black teacher, and they didn’t stop there, they wrote a whole complaint! What happened because of this? The Black teacher I was working with stated that her and I could no longer speak outside of the classroom, and I told her that she shouldn’t let these people determine our relationship (this was in 2014 by the way). So one morning, disregarding her fear of white people, I said “good morning” to her outside of the classroom, just by habit! She got so upset and tried to scold me later on “don’t you know these people have filed a complaint?”, I said “Yes, I don’t care, I am not going to let them determine my relationships.” She tried to “school” me on how to deal with white people, because she thought since she was older, she was an expert and I was being naïve, which I rejected. You have to begin to ask yourself why we are here in the first place, because I was assigned to a Black teachers classroom when all the other white teachers were adamant that they didn’t need my help. This country can drive you crazy, with the nonsense these people make up to seem right and superior. Divide and conquer at it’s finest, and as you can see it worked. They did not appreciate my help in their classrooms, but as soon as they saw two black women being paired together, uproar! Immediately, the Black teacher displays fear, dissociates from me, and their plan worked. Very weird, colonizer behavior, monitoring black people and causing dissension between us as if we’re on a plantation.

I have been in situations and watched where there was an issue involving Black people and the white people around think they are the authority on how to handle the situation, even if a Black person is already helping. There is a savior complex and slaveowner plantation complex that makes them feel they can always come between us, our issues, our conversations, our everything. Even when our situations are positive, they must insert their division somewhere. I ignore them and stand my ground when they try to interfere all at the same time, but unfortunately my melanated brethren and sistren such as the one mentioned have “scolded” me for even thinking to correct a white person, or go against their plan. “My, you’re confident around white people, you just corrected him like that?’ Uh, yes, if he’s saying misinformation about Africa or Black people, or in general, lol. Be on code people, you are not the plantation you don’t have to scold Black people on a white person’s behalf, smh. You are not going to get a prize, if anything, you will be isolated and controlled, just like the teacher mentioned above. In her mind, complying with their nonsense saved her job, but what if she had that same energy and fought with me, we could’ve possibly had a case ourselves. When we’re divided, it’s easier for them to pick the black person that sides with them and say “see, she agrees with us, what are you talking about?” What is the actual fear of white people? I get what they have done for 401 years but as they are human, we are human too and can always reverse the roles! We can be unified and dismantle their whole system from the little lies to the global ones. So I said all that to say, be on code at all times, you may think it’s light, and “do whatever you gotta do to keep your job”, but we need to start showing ourselves that we can truly be on code and are a force to be reckoned with. The one thing about me at jobs is that they knew I was always willing to give up my job to stand up for what’s right, I never wanted them to feel I need them and I’ll do whatever to stay, I’ve even protected Black people who weren’t on code. The reason I do is because, If a woman and her husband are arguing, disrespecting each other for the world to see, other people may see that as a relationship not to be respected, and possibly either a) disrespect the significant other as well or b) try to come between them. That is how it works with divide and conquer, it’s how diaspora wars have started, it’s why Black families have been broken up, and it means so much to just be on code.

We have entered into a new era, I’ve spoken about it since 2018, but you see, all these laws are changing, and benefiting the violence that initially “built” this country. Especially in Texas, people are about to start having guns with no license starting in September, and they just removed Black history information from the Texas curriculum and information that makes slavery look bad. You may not think so but, right now they are trying to show their “authority” because people are becoming empowered, now is thee perfect time to be on code, please! Being on code could save a life at this point.

Join me in my Dear Black People series to learn how to free yourselves of this thinking, and learn how to be on code!

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Call Yourself the Right Name

What I notice is, people love to call their ancestors slaves but hate the idea of calling themselves African. Those slaves were enslaved Africans. How can one consider themselves a descendant of an African slave, but deny their Africanness?

I always say, if you take a Chinese person who has 2 children, one goes to live in another country and never returns, never talks to their parent again, but has children and grandchildren in their new land; that does not cut the blood ties, it only cuts the location. So many people have traced their habits/talents back to tribes in Africa. For example, I met a lady who was so into basket weaving. She stated that she did her DNA ancestry test, and she found out that the tribe in Africa she is from is known for basket weaving. There is noting wrong with acknowledging your roots. People are only ashamed to identify with Africa, because America teaches that African American history starts with slavery, no, Africans have a long history, part of it is slavery, but we were enslaved as victims, that is nothing to be ashamed of, but something to continue to fight against. We take no blame, although society likes to victim blame, we are not to be blamed for the repercussions of slavery, only to be blamed individually if we know better and don’t do better. But let’s not get it twisted, we have done better, extremely better, thrived throughout evil imposed circumstances, revolted at every chance – we never accepted our status as slaves, and have made major world accomplishments that are not credited to us – copyrights and patents stolen. We are so busy listening to narratives by people who are not us, mainly white people, that we forgot, they are paid to paint a negative picture of us, but would never paint that negative picture of themselves. They are so calculated that they framed rapists, murderers, and enslavers as “founding fathers”, and “revolutionaries”, if anything, that is something to be ashamed of. Instead, they want us to be ashamed of something that happened to us, and gaslight us into believing that being loyal to america, one of the countries that enslaved us, is patriotic. Never! I am patriotic to the nation that birthed me, that great nation is Africa, and it will never change. Africa is the reason I am resilient, the reason I am brown, the reason I have tight coily hair, the reason I have a place to call home always, and the reason that the entire earth has resources. Let’s not be fooled, every cell phone you hold is thanks to Africa and Africans. Therefore, being African is nothing to be ashamed of, but everything to celebrate. No matter the current status, we are still the only people in the world who shape every single institution with our ideas, energy, vernacular, style, and resilience. The world would simply not be without Black people, and I mean that.

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The Celebration Continues!!!

Hello My Melanated Gems! This past weekend I celebrated my birthday! In honor of my birthday and DiasporAfri’s colors, purple and gold, I created this bracelet with the word Ala, the Igbo Goddess of the earth. You can choose between the words Queen, Ala, or Ani, another spelling for the Igbo Goddess of the earth. This bracelet also comes in RBG colors. Get yours today ladies!

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Get Ready For July Decolonize Your Mind Classes!

Hello my Melanated Gems! I have so much in store for you for the upcoming Decolonize Your Mind™ Classes. I am revamping the classes for a better experience the next time around, starting July 5th and recurring through the month of July on July 6th, 12th, 19th, and 26th. The rest of the courses throughout the series will be offered on July 13th, 20th, and 27th. The series will now consist of 4 classes instead of 8, I have revamped a lot of the information to cover them in 4 courses. I have learned what is most important to my audience, and catered the information to address those issues head on, you all will not want to miss this experience. The links to register for the remainder of the classes will be available on June 30th, so be on the lookout! In the meantime, thank you all for being so supportive of the Melanated Gem™ Jewelry series, you all seem to really love the RBG Freedom items. I now have 4, 5 star items out of 10 items, and a 4.5 star course based on reviews from those who have attended the class. I created these items to also help build my business and offer classes to those in the Global Black Diaspora who are most vulnerable and need access to information that will help them become free and be empowered. I make everything with you all in mind, the energy invoked into each item is to exude freedom, love of self and love of others in the Global Black Diaspora, it’s time to unite!!!

Shop Melanated Gem™ and register for Decolonize Your Mind™ by clicking one of these links, thank you all again!