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We Built The Tables: #ForwardFriday… Black History Month

Black people built the tables that white supremacy is denying invites to…

No worries, we’ll build another set.

Imagine, slave owners were paid reparations for the money lost, “freeing” the enslaved Africans and leaving them with nothing. Imagine, the enslaved Africans who labored, created inventions that colonizers took credit for, and built every institution from universities to the White House were left with nothing, and then at the thought of wanting better for themselves are told to work harder. We have been working hard, Black women have the highest education rates, I read an article that stated, white high school dropouts earn more than Black and Hispanic college graduates. There is no such thing as a Black person who doesn’t work hard, Black people are tired of working twice as hard and not being paid with the money or respect that is deserved. I remember working with a Jewish woman who said “of course we received reparations, they took everything from us how were we supposed to live?” So people understand the concept when it’s everybody but Black people. We have showed time and time again that we are collectively great, still someone will say, work harder. Forget that; I will not work twice as hard just to be prone to suffering from mental health and high blood pressure, I will live my life and fight the good fight, and I will encourage each of us to fight so we can all do the same. Again as I have said, and I will continue to say, every mistreated people in the world has received their reparations from their respective oppressors, except Black people, globally. This is true even for nationalities that try to identify as “allies” with Black people, they have received their justice with reparations and initiatives that benefit them solely. Imagine being told that you have no right to complain, when you are the only people on earth who continually suffer the most from any oppression in the world. Sure, the coronavirus affected the whole world, but Black people, again, have suffered the most. The government wants to claim Black and Brown, but we know that in America, Hispanics are separated into two categories; Black and non Black. I bet that the group of Hispanics that suffer are the Black Hispanics.

Everyday it is revealed that a Black person is the true inventor of something important to society. Everyday money is wasted on studies to continue to prove that Black people are mistreated, underpaid, underrepresented, etc. How many more tables do we need to build? We even built the table for other “minorities” to benefit on the backs of our civil rights labor.

Here’s a suggestion, melanated gems, find it deep inside yourself to be tired enough. Just rest. When we stop, watch the world stop. Don’t accept the gaslighting, don’t accept the pressure, just stop building. At some point in an abusive relationship, the abused person gets tired, then they leave, and the abuser knows they mean business.

We need energy to build up our tables again, because, they will fight for access to our tables, and we need the strength for this tug of war. This time, we’re getting the patent, we’re getting the credit, and we’re going to sit down and eat in peace.

I look forward to it, melanated gem!

Next week I’d the last week of the Dear Black People Webinar Series for this go round!

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#SoulfulSunday: Celebrate Every Win

Melanated gem, who told you that victory is only for a completed project? Of course we don’t settle for mediocrity, but what if you hate writing e-mails but needed to write 50 for your 1st event? That calls for celebration whenever you’re finished! Burnout is real, sometimes we’re so focused on the big end result that by the time we get to the end, we don’t have any energy to celebrate. Celebrating yourself releases good hormones, it allows your body and mind to take small little breaks and rejuvenate between tasks.

We’ve all heard the common phrase, “Black people have to work twice as hard”, and you know what? I made it up in my mind a long time ago that I’m going to do my portion and do it well, but I’m not going to burn out to “compete” with some imaginary standard. I am my standard, I have been given tasks, and in this life, they will be completed; I’ll celebrate to that. With all these health conditions and mental health problems, why should I worry my brain to compete with an oppressive system that built their wealth on theft? I need to fill my brain with happy hormones and celebrate myself as much as possible.

The next piece of this is, realizing it’s ok to celebrate other Black people too. That increases your happy hormones too by celebrating one another instead of judging and tearing each other down. In this system where competition is fueled by lack of resources, people find it hard to celebrate with other successful Black people, or only want to celebrate with them when they’re big, not still small. It’s kind of like those people who doubt you, but then when you make it big, they clung on. I celebrate black businesses no matter what stage they’re in. Why? Because my lane is big enough for me, I celebrate myself, therefore I have room to celebrate someone else. It’s comes naturally.

It’s a new day around here, melanated gem. We are being called to a greatness that requires us to be healthy and take care of ourselves, and each other. No more “slaving” and running ourselves into the ground, we must run our race and reject severe competition. No more tearing each other down, we must celebrate each other and lift each other. What is next for us, melanated gems, is a completed race that we’ll finish together. We must celebrate each others contributions along the way, big or small, and tear down the competition for this little piece of pie. Soon, we won’t be competing within a system, but instead, building our own. Celebrate now, it’s only a matter of time before we win.

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When they know they Know

Sometimes you will be confused, melanated gems, why you put yourself out there, and it seems like, people don’t feel the same way about what you do as you do. You put your all into your craft, and the people who you think would love what you do are actually the ones who fall off. It’s not that they don’t know you’re good, they just don’t want it to be you. Remember the pie I talked about in my last blog post? The white supremacy pie that makes everyone who’s not a part of that system fight for one piece? Well, it fuels insecurity and competition.

We already know the statistics, Black women start 763 businesses a day. On a whole, we have to work harder to sustain because we just don’t get the support needed to sustain. I am so happy when I see Black owned businesses because I know what it took to get there. I’m here to tell you that, if the idea was given to you, it’s because you were supposed to fulfill it. What other people say is only their input/opinion, but it is not part of your design. Even the system who rejects you, is not part of your design. Don’t you know, melanated gem, that opposition has to come when you are on the path to greatness, and it may be sad or confusing when it’s your own people, but just remember, we have a lot to do in terms of self love amongst the Black population. Our global self love was robbed from us, you achieving your gift will allow others to achieve the same.

Even though we live in a system that is built for our oppression, we should never, ever, doubt our gifts. People actually know you are good, in fact, you’ve heard it your whole life from unlikely people, you know it’s in your heart every second of the day; and although encouragement is nice, it’s not necessary when you know what you have inside of you. I’ve come to understand that on the road to greatness, opposition comes to force out the greatness in you. I also understand that in my own path, elders always encourage me and recognize the greatness in me, they always encourage me to keep going! Your encouragers are there, just keep them and ignore the rest. Any important, valid feedback will always help build up, it will never tear down.

When they know, they know; but what’s more important is that you know. You know the greatness inside of you, you know what makes you light up, so keep that, and if anyone in your life doesn’t aid in that path, unfortunately, they can go! Your work may benefit them in the long run.

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