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What White People Do is Not Our Frame of Reference #ForwardFridays

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“Well, this is how the white people do it”… how many times have you heard a Black person say that in reference to us doing what’s right?

This is my last post about white people, this is not even my lane, but I want to free my people from the shackles of seeing them as God, or an authority…

I had a whole nother blog post scheduled for today, but I pulled this one out of the drafts. I see that 2 white women are being praised in an article called “Cannabis takes the world stage at the Tokyo Olympics”. The article starts off by saying “For the first time in the Olympics 125-year modern history, elite athletes are being open about their use of cannabis products to prepare them for the world’s biggest stage in sports. Leading the charge is Olympic gold medalist and U.S. Soccer Women’s National Team star Megan Rapinoe, who incorporates CBD into her training routine…..”

I am confusion, yes, confusion – wasn’t Miss Sha’Carri Richardson just blasted all over the news for smoking weed and fired from performing at the Olympics? You see, it’s the same thing that’s happened for many years, Black people were locked up and torn from their families for smoking or selling weed, but when white people got a hold of the industry, and called it by another name, they are making billions of dollars, all of it gets you high. My people, my people, when will you get it? Sha’Carri wasn’t wrong, we weren’t wrong, we aren’t wrong, and we won’t ever be wrong, we are just criminalized!!!

There is a complex, as I teach about in my Dear Black People™ series, everything Black people do, starting from Africa, is demonized, criminalized, stolen, remixed, and copyrighted for the benefit of whites, and sold back to us as something else with no credit. The bamboozlement is thinking that we inherently were doing something wrong, and praise the same exact thing when whites do it! Prime example is burning incense and sage, but they burn frankincense in the church, and people burn candles with herbs in it to relax them and the atmosphere. They put lavender oil in a machine to diffuse it and say it’s calming, that’s African. People will criminalize African spirituality but in church say they are casting out demons and speaking in tongues. My people my people, all of these things are a copy and paste of African spirituality. When you eat pizza and burgers with your hands but call an African barbaric for eating fufu, that’s anti-black. When we are told our supreme hair is ghetto for wearing braids, but kim k. and clan are praised for it being high fashion, I don’t need to remind you all of the many ways we are brainwashed to see the white version of everything as right, and the same exact thing as wrong when a Black person does it. Even when it is presented that way, someone will “brilliantly” say, “well, it’s different when white people do it”.

So back to the title of this blog post, whites have done some heinous things in the name of “freedom”, but they put on an army suit and say it’s patriotic. They have fooled us into believing that all these wars and destruction of people livelihoods, children, and infrastructure to settle an argument between white men over property was somehow to protect us. I never believed it, I remember in high school refusing to pledge to the flag for many reasons, but I’m like, “they’re not fighting for me!” A Black person defends their family like anybody else would, they say “you shouldn’t retaliate”, and lock them up, but the troops are just now being pulled out of Afghanistan for 9/11/2001. At one point, marriage between a Black man and Black woman was illegal in America, why? Because when whites would terrorize Black women, the men would fight back, so they made it illegal for black people to marry to avoid being retaliated against. So when I hear people say, “we have to do it like the whites if we want to be successful”, I’m like, do what? rob, steal, kill, and destroy?, then label it as patriotism, globalization, founding fathers, heroes, and a bunch of other nonsense that completely describes the exact opposite of their behavior? That is what they have done for 401 years, make us hate the very thing we do that’s harmless, they go do something completely horrible, and call it superior behavior. I am so sad for Sha’Carri even though I know she’s a soldier, but it’s time we stop defending white behavior. Listen, I haven’t watched the Olympics in a while, but after what happened to Sha’Carri, I said, I have no need to watch, and I feel every Black player should’ve boycotted the competitions from every country. Because as a people we have not freed our minds from being seen as favorable and accepted in white institutions, they will not quit. If it was the Asians or the Jews my gosh, do you know a bill would’ve been signed protecting them, possibly a law even changed to allow them to smoke weed at the Olympics? I don’t know why unity is so hard, but I’ll still fight to get you to see the greater benefit of it.

When I was a teacher, I remember the little white boy literally physically hit a teacher, they said, “he’s having problems at home, he didn’t mean it”, I argued with them because I said, when the Black boy the next day had an outburst, he was expelled. You get the point, I’m giving you examples from as many institutions as possible to say, white people really don’t be right, they be wrong, as heck, but I challenge you to stop looking at them as the example of success. Their example is how to terrorize every living place on this earth to steal what is everybody else’s and call it theirs, and criminalize everybody in the process for having the audacity to do something that they can’t make money off of, and now they want to go to outerspace and terrorize there too. Even we as a people have come to defend white behavior and give all kinds of excuses, because we have taken on anti-Blackness as well. As I stated yesterday, anti blackness is everywhere, and whiteness is not the way, it is not white supremacy as I have been saying, it is white inferiority behavior, and we have to stop pacifying it, protecting it, and giving it names based on some political correctness, no, it’s bottom of the barrel behavior and it must be stopped.

Now I’m tired of talking about these people, y’all finna get on my nerves na!

We have to learn the origins of our practices and get back to that, no more demonizing black culture.

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Whether You Like it or Not, Anti-Blackness is in Everything: Here’s How We Move Forward

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It’s not rocket science, the institutions that have implemented and enforced the racist policies that impact us all today, they are not gone. This is why I say, I know the importance of unity and sticking together, but individually we must be able to stand up and challenge every situation that we face. As we gradually begin to take personal responsibility for situations that happen to us in every racist situation, big or small, in every institution – medical, educational, workplace, corporate, legal, social, everywhere!

I was talking to my great aunt, well, she’s my grandmothers first cousin, we always talk. She is in her 70s, and so lovely, she tells me stories of being the first Black manager at AT&T years and years ago, and all the stories of racism, while overcoming to still make some of the most accomplishments while there. I have the same stories she has years later, and we share stories a lot, I am at least 40 years younger than her. We cannot ignore that a lot of these micro and macro aggressions are literally embedded in the framework and thinking of people. Even if let’s say, someone is naïve enough to believe that greater society has eradicated racism, the very fiber of how we interact is seen at work, where most people make a living, and social events/social activities, where most people gather. In these institutions, this is where many of these acts of racism are seen and the most impactful. The reason why I can go to the store right now and be confusingly greeted with “is there something you need?”, when the white person right before me was greeted with “hi, welcome, how may I help you?”, is because of the literal DNA of these institutions. I remember the most recent outrageous one was at the post office a few weeks ago; I literally walked in, fly as could be, and the post office worker was like “umm is there something you need?’ maybe because the post office is in an all white area, she was confused by seeing me – too bad for her, however, I said “I’m here for my health, no, obviously I’m here because I want to send out a package.” Again, I had just watched the white customers be greeted with joy and extra care as I stood in line. Why else would I be coming to your business if I didn’t need help? That is why I have an attitude in my response everytime and allow them to see their ignorance real time. You may not think it matters but, it helps not to be passive. This is a common occurrence in every institution I enter that requires me to receive customer service, and it’s because people are ignorant and think black people don’t require good service, or we should just be happy that someone is even talking to us. Watch very closely, that is why diversity and inclusion is a scam; they will include you, as long as they can still talk to you any kind of way. What we fight for is total liberation.

I am not passive with the little or the big things, because I have heard many people say we should overcome those little moments with kindness and kill their ignorance. My sisters and brothers, no! We have been kind through slavery, jim crown, civil rights, and now Black Lives Matter, all while being the only people in the world to not receive reparation’s or any kind of bill protecting us as every other group has. Different name, same fight, you may not see a plantation but as I said in Tuesday’s blog post, they still behave as if the plantation is there. So we are constantly running away from the plantation, we should not be compliant or passive on the plantation, the pseudo slavemasters need to know that we do not accept micro or macro aggressions against us and that we will fight everytime, and we won’t stop until they are eradicated, just like the Asians did to receive the Anti-hate bill, you get me?

I like to bring things down to a micro level often, so people understand me. If you are in a relationship, and the person keeps disrespecting you, the day you finally stand up, they may laugh and think you are not serious, until you show them that their disrespect could cost them the relationship. The relationship between whiteness and Blackness, (as I wrote about in this blog post) and unfortunately the entire world that has taken on a whiteness stance towards the treatment of Black people, is very toxic, yet the world depends on Blackness and Africa’s resources to sustain every institution. Passiveness is not how we regain control of our livelihoods and resources, active challenging makes it easier for us to be a united front.

What will you do to stand up today?

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Your Meat isn’t Toxic, Your Words Are…

What blows my mind is how people can sit up and curse people out all day, be vulgar and negative all day, then criticize people for eating meat. Their words are just as toxic as the meat they claim is toxic. I understand that everyone has their food choices, but every mammal in the food chain eats another mammals meat, it’s not the end of the world to be beefing over. It’s just that in America, everything is in the extremes, and there is no balance. Now, I’m no scientist, but, I have eaten meat outside of the united states of america, a few times. I honestly believe, like most things in america, the chemicals being put in our food is just toxic. However, the words that come out of our mouths, the energy we put out there, other things we consume are just as toxic, so we have to find balance rather than judge those who eat meat from time to time.

I remember my little brother went to live in Nigeria from the age of 2-5. They said in Nigeria he ate chicken all the time, but when he got back here, he did not want to eat chicken at all, he refused it. That let me know that something here is drastically different. From the eyes of a child it made sense. But even me, as a child I would cry coming back to America, I would visit Nigeria and never want to leave, I was born in america. So again from the eyes of a child, what is it about america, and everything that comes with America that is so toxic? People in America feed off negativity and not kindness, the food causes all kind of sickness, racism is built into and implemented in everything from the food to the institutions, so it’s more than just 1 thing.

I think we need to get to the root of issues, I stopped listening to all this advice about what to put in my body because the media likes to spread misinformation to cause confusion. That leads to dependency on doctors and their faulty science, every 5 years there’s a new report of something that was so sure to work just 5 years ago, now causes cancer, and one should call 1-800-save-me to get a lawyer if they’ve ever taken this medication. I started listening to my own body. I got rid of a medical issue on my own by listening to my body and researching and changing my eating habits. That same regimen may not have worked for someone else. Sugar is the thing I have to avoid at all costs, if I do eat anything with added sugar every once in a while, it has to be once in every 3 months. I make my own desserts at home and add raw honey or raw maple or agave. That’s me. Someone else I know may eat sugar and not be impacted the same way, maybe they have a higher metabolism. I eat fish most of the time but every once in a while I’ll eat beef or chicken and be fine, and where I buy it from matters, I don’t do big chain grocery store meat. At the same time I believe in balance so I won’t refuse a good night out, I have a theory that my food digests better when in company with friends or entertainment but that’s me. At the same time there’s certain things I don’t watch or listen to, and I put a lot of positivity in the world, ask anybody. My commentary on white people is in relation to decolonizing our minds of treating them as gods, and freeing ourselves from their terror. So understand all is in context. We have to find balances in life and meat is not a reason to be having beef with people, no pun intended. I can’t believe I’m seeing arguments over who eats meat and if that makes them woke or not. Please, for the sake of saking, treat people right. Can we live in a world where we can respect even the people we hate? If someone treats me wrong I’ll act accordingly, but dear Black people, let’s not fall out over overcooked beef… did you catch that?

I just believe that if people are going to be preaching about what’s toxic and what’s not, be sure to be mindful of everything that you’re putting out there and in your body, including your words and energy. Remember, our ancestors, well at least mine in Virginia lived until well over 100 eating the same meat and things that people say are detrimental today. They smoked cigarettes and did all kinds of things and lived long lives. Why? I believe it’s because everything was much purer, and they had each other, not that they were void of issues, but you get it. These days we live alone, consume more toxicity, release more toxicity in our music, media, etc., so it’s all playing a major role in the quality of our lives. it’s not the meat sis, it’s you…

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The Plantation is Physically Gone, Now Get it Out of Your Mind! #TeachMeTuesdays

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White people love dissension between black people. It’s the one thing they have carried on that they haven’t even realized, or have realized – either way I don’t care, I just know that for them, black people disagreeing is a show. I will have already built 10 schools if I had a dollar for everytime a white person has tried to cause dissension between myself and another black person, or when I witnessed it happen to other Black people I know. Literally, I remember when I was a substitute teacher while I was in grad school, and I worked permanently at a school that had a black principal, but every teacher was white except 1. When the principal would send me to classrooms, the white teachers would always say “we don’t need her”, mind you, my reputation and results with the students was great (why the principal wanted me there permanently). Well, finally, a new student came that was very active I should say, he happened to be a student of the only Black teacher. The principal assigned me to him permanently for the rest of the year, because he needed a one on one. You can guess what happened next, ALL the white teachers got upset, and said the principal was showing favoritism to the Black teacher, and they didn’t stop there, they wrote a whole complaint! What happened because of this? The Black teacher I was working with stated that her and I could no longer speak outside of the classroom, and I told her that she shouldn’t let these people determine our relationship (this was in 2014 by the way). So one morning, disregarding her fear of white people, I said “good morning” to her outside of the classroom, just by habit! She got so upset and tried to scold me later on “don’t you know these people have filed a complaint?”, I said “Yes, I don’t care, I am not going to let them determine my relationships.” She tried to “school” me on how to deal with white people, because she thought since she was older, she was an expert and I was being naïve, which I rejected. You have to begin to ask yourself why we are here in the first place, because I was assigned to a Black teachers classroom when all the other white teachers were adamant that they didn’t need my help. This country can drive you crazy, with the nonsense these people make up to seem right and superior. Divide and conquer at it’s finest, and as you can see it worked. They did not appreciate my help in their classrooms, but as soon as they saw two black women being paired together, uproar! Immediately, the Black teacher displays fear, dissociates from me, and their plan worked. Very weird, colonizer behavior, monitoring black people and causing dissension between us as if we’re on a plantation.

I have been in situations and watched where there was an issue involving Black people and the white people around think they are the authority on how to handle the situation, even if a Black person is already helping. There is a savior complex and slaveowner plantation complex that makes them feel they can always come between us, our issues, our conversations, our everything. Even when our situations are positive, they must insert their division somewhere. I ignore them and stand my ground when they try to interfere all at the same time, but unfortunately my melanated brethren and sistren such as the one mentioned have “scolded” me for even thinking to correct a white person, or go against their plan. “My, you’re confident around white people, you just corrected him like that?’ Uh, yes, if he’s saying misinformation about Africa or Black people, or in general, lol. Be on code people, you are not the plantation you don’t have to scold Black people on a white person’s behalf, smh. You are not going to get a prize, if anything, you will be isolated and controlled, just like the teacher mentioned above. In her mind, complying with their nonsense saved her job, but what if she had that same energy and fought with me, we could’ve possibly had a case ourselves. When we’re divided, it’s easier for them to pick the black person that sides with them and say “see, she agrees with us, what are you talking about?” What is the actual fear of white people? I get what they have done for 401 years but as they are human, we are human too and can always reverse the roles! We can be unified and dismantle their whole system from the little lies to the global ones. So I said all that to say, be on code at all times, you may think it’s light, and “do whatever you gotta do to keep your job”, but we need to start showing ourselves that we can truly be on code and are a force to be reckoned with. The one thing about me at jobs is that they knew I was always willing to give up my job to stand up for what’s right, I never wanted them to feel I need them and I’ll do whatever to stay, I’ve even protected Black people who weren’t on code. The reason I do is because, If a woman and her husband are arguing, disrespecting each other for the world to see, other people may see that as a relationship not to be respected, and possibly either a) disrespect the significant other as well or b) try to come between them. That is how it works with divide and conquer, it’s how diaspora wars have started, it’s why Black families have been broken up, and it means so much to just be on code.

We have entered into a new era, I’ve spoken about it since 2018, but you see, all these laws are changing, and benefiting the violence that initially “built” this country. Especially in Texas, people are about to start having guns with no license starting in September, and they just removed Black history information from the Texas curriculum and information that makes slavery look bad. You may not think so but, right now they are trying to show their “authority” because people are becoming empowered, now is thee perfect time to be on code, please! Being on code could save a life at this point.

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