You ever see another beautiful Black woman doing her thing and just thank God for making you a part of this tribe?
I do everyday. There is something, motherly and abundantly supreme about Black women that makes many other women want to be. Even gay male culture is modeled after the actions, sayings, and movements of Black women: although many times overly exaggerated. Black women have always been strong, “strong black woman” is actually not an insult. When the women’s right’s movement began, they modeled after the Aba Women’s Riot displayed by Igbo women against the British in 1929.Strength is normal to us, and any threat against our community, we stand.
When I was in Namibia living with the Himbas, the only African tribe to still practice their pre-colonial traditions – the women told me that they have always worked and been part of agriculture. The difference is, African women were seen as closer to God than men because of our ability to give birth, and, work was a community thing, so it is not like leaving home for hours to go away from our communities and work for a corporation. The Himbas cultivated their land together, as a community, and yes, women tended after the children, but their strength allowed them to contribute in more ways than one. Simply put, if many people are tending to the same load that benefits everybody, it is not as stressful on individuals. It takes a village.
Back to Black women
Western society has completely shifted our worldviews, we try to explain gender roles and societal norms from a western view, when we as Africans, and pretty much every indigenous people on the earth realize, the power of women. Go to any African marketplace, in Africa, and see who’s running the markets, African women. You see the connection? Agriculture, we tend to the health and wealth of society. When I look back on pictures of women from our past, everything about us was, and is, so elegant. From our hairstyles, to our originality, to our style, to our innovations, to the way we tend for children. I never knew that in 2021 we can still come up with new braid styles, yet here we are, as I watch YouTube, creating new styles everyday; and revamping old styles, coming up with new ways to do them. People may think “it’s just hair”, but hair in African culture has always been important. Hairstyles would tell you what tribe a person was in, their status, their current position in life – married, widow, pre-marriage -, and it was always important to maintain those styles. Even today, Black women spend more money on hair than any other race, even though it is not all on our original natural styles, it shows the importance of hair. Even when we wore our afros, it was to let society know we aren’t afraid to be us.
Black women have contributed 70% more to the workforce than any other race or gender, by force, yes, but we have given in love, and given in force, anytime in this life, we have given, and the world has taken. When we are robbed of our people, we are robbed of our wombs, for life comes through the womb. The womb that tends to humanity as the first home, and Africa is the first home of humanity, anyone ask yourself why we call Africa mama Africa?
Well, I celebrate my strength, I celebrate my femininity that is wrapped in my strength, and I celebrate my ability to be many things. A sister, a mom, a wife, a colleague, and anything else. Black women have always taken on many roles, and not to diminish men, but we work with our men to achieve, not the western way, but the African way. Whether people think it’s normal or not, the fact remains, we have done it, and it is nothing for men to be threatened by, it is only there to collaborate with. Always remember, everything African is about balance, women should not compete with men but women and men should complete each other.
Have you seen the style and grace of a black woman? Experience it today, experience her, all of her, and love her, and appreciate her, and uplift her, because she holds the key to your seed and the key to humanity.